Or maybe it’s because the youngest kid hit 18.

This right here. It’s easier to turn to booze as a cutesy joke than deal with the reality you married a selfish asshole who won’t do a load of laundry.

I don’t think the patriarchy counts on women drinking, it is just one of the main ways men have coped for most of humankind. What I find historically interesting, is for a huge chunk of American history, women did not drink or if they did, it was extremely infrequently. Women were held in high regard as Pillars of…

Drinking or “mothers little helpers”, either is far to normalized and PUSHED.

I’ve been reading Quit Like A Woman which is interesting, but it really made me think about all the anti-capitalist, badass women I know who buy into the alcohol culture for women. I used to be one of them though my badassery is questionable at best. It just never occurred to me how much of my perception of alcohol is…

At the beginning of the pandemic, I mentioned amongst a friend group (where I am one of the few childless members) that I found the wine mom culture and memes super disturbing. I grew up in a household ravaged by addiction that extended back several generations, and it feels very much so like choosing to laugh at an…

The biggest #IMomSoHard fans I know are the ones who joke about wine mom shit and pretend that they feel constrained, and are the biggest enforcers of unrealistic maternal expectation. They use this schtick to pretend that they are just as oppressed by it, when they themselves are the happy oppressors. 

I used to be in “The Lifestyle” with an ex; can confirm: they were the hardest (sorry) of the hard-right extremists.

How dare you get facts in our urbanista Chill Girl routine!

Things are changing though!

If my suburban lady friends are any indication...

There’s a thrift store in Atlanta, Lost n’ Found Youth, that supports an organization that helps homeless LGBTQ youth (most of whom have been rejected by their families). They have a drop in center and a residence, and the youth are allowed to “shop” the thrift store for free. While I might also browse goodwills in…

He’s boring looking. And he’s not really a believable actor. 

It’s America: anti-vaxxer or not, someone’s getting shot.

I think it another factor is that women are more willing to face the logistical nightmare of getting a vaccine appointment in many states. I know my husband would probably have thrown up his hands at the state vaccine “appointment marketplace.” I was the one to keep up to date on when he was eligible, sign up for the…

I’m so proud of my uncle who got his first shot last week, when his crazy anti-vax wife refuses. It’s tough for him to do anything she disapproves of. He tried to quit smoking several times and she shamed him back into it. *insert eyeroll emoji here*

Chris Evans: You are under no obligation to respond to an unsolicited DM.

I know open relationships and polyamory are all the rage right now, but I have literally never met one person who navigated this kind of things successfully. I’m convinced these mythical people, who have healthy, open conversations with their loving partners and then decided on a mutually beneficial “open…

Totally anecdotal here so take with all the salt necessary, but my observations of open relationships were overall negative. Most couples I saw simply couldn’t pull it off without someone feeling hurt, neglecte1d and\or jealous. The very few couples who seemed to make it work pretty much stuck to being involved with…