My wife went through this same stuff. So have two of her friends.

Did you know you can appeal a restraining order?

Then you haven't lived through this and seen the countless lives that are destroyed by domestic violence.

This. My wife lived through this shit with an ex. The cops would show up and say "he just wants you to come back inside."

I'll board this train. Tolerating these kinds of predators only allows them to victimize more people.

Wear gloves. Burn them when you're done.

This is scary. It just screams 'abusive relationship' to me. Please take a look at this: http://www.ashleighspati'enceproject.com/abuse-types-an…

This is amazing. She was resisting, and they didn't beat her or shoot her - or any bystanders either.

Sure. There are a lot of people who set out to make feminism look bad. There's also a lot of hostility from within the feminist camp that doesn't help.

Anyone spending any amount of time observing feminist discussion will see that it is indeed "a big tent".

Too right. Though opinion seems to be turning thanks to phone cameras and the internet.

Sometimes you can't diffuse them. Sometimes they're just going to beat you, no matter what.

I can understand that. I have those days too. Lost a lot of Facebook friends lately raging against Republicans and the police.

I wasn't trolling. I was using an example to illustrate.

I'm just talking here as a dude.

#notallpolice

You haven't woken up at 3 am to a swat team pointing guns at your toddler - only to be resolved when the police realize they have the wrong address.

Whew. The police found no evidence of police misconduct. I feel much better about it now that such a trustworthy source has looked into it.

"that the power dynamics between police and people are similar to those between prison guards and prisoners."

Sure thing officer.