While I would be inclined to agree, I know that sort of behavior bothers a lot of chicks, so I have that in mind when I'm saying it's stupid.

Usually it's more of a question, like "are you into kink?" Or "are you a sexual person?" which, actually yes I am, but holy shit is that inappropriate.

If a guy will not treat me like a human (ie entitled to the same courtesy and respect he is) the he gets no sex. None. If he treats me with respect, and we meet and like each other, then I might sleep with him. How is this so hard for people to understand? It's not as if my standards are so impossibly high. I simply…

Yeah - I am not bubbly or flirty or touchy at all. I don't even like to be hugged. They are literally just latching on to my general human decency and niceness.

Yes, this. I've misinterpreted friendly affection as "more," but I've never lashed out at the man for my mistake. On the other hand, I've had a couple men call me a "tease," and a "game-player" (and not in a nice way at all) for being my completely normal self with them. I'm legitimately not a flirty or even…

It's kind of a stretch, but reminds me of my asshole ex BF who wouldn't *let* us break up. He was under the impression that it was only a breakup if he agreed to it. Like, these guys think if you reject them, it's not your decision - that if you just do what they want and what they say, everyone will be happy.

Gotta agree with the crowd that it's #1. I had a long-distance relationship in college and having a boyfriend made it so much easier for me to make guy friends because I wasn't worried about impressing them or about them misunderstanding my intentions (well, there were a couple who did misunderstand).

#1.

I can't speak to your personal truth, but as a woman, I often feel safer being openly friendly with a guy I know to be married. Presumably (and usually) he understands that I am not looking to hook up with him, so I can be less guarded. It's not always the case (BRIAN, YOU CREEP), but usually.

#1

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As someone with lots of married male friends, its #1

Nope, then you get the Smile! directives.

It's like your lack of interest is never a HIM problem, it's always a YOU problem.

How dare you be sexy AT someone!

It's weird having breasts. They just stick out in front of your chest. And a good bra makes them more comfortable. And they only make this shirt in that cut, and I wanted the damn 3/4 sleeve.

Seriously, I try to never be sexy AT people, but my breasts just have this mind of their own.

I used to be a #1, until experience taught me that friendliness would still get me propositioned, even by a seemingly taken individual. There is no safe conversation zone with some people, I guess.

yeah, i have RBF and men still would harass me on the street

Oh god, I have the same problem with cleavage. There is so much shit I can't wear because it would look indecent, when it would look perfectly fine on someone with a much smaller chest :(

I noticed that after I got married, a LOT more women hit on me or flirted with me when they saw the ring on my finger....or at least I *thought* they were.

Evolutionary psychology is not basic sexism? Now that's news