Aww, thank you!! :) :) I saw “Vagitarian” printed on a mug at the SF ferry terminal, and knew the name would be forever mine.

I don’t think if it was four casual dates you should feel bad. If they were four lonnnng dates where you both spilled your guts, a phone call or text probably would have been the nice thing to do. But I’ve been trained by the wild west of internet dating not to expect anything until I’ve been seeing a person…

OMFG whyyyy do exes think the right time to call is on your birthday? That is the WORST time to call, yet like clockwork...

Obvs the right move :) I always thought there was some sort of minimum standard for it to be a truly annoying ghosting. Maybe like, four or five dates? I feel like five dates deserves at least a text “hey, it’s been cool getting to know you, but i don’t feel a longer term vibe building...”. Maybe like 10 dates calls…

I don’t think that falls into the bad category of ghosting. She knows why you did it. It’s like when my ex sent me an angry Facebook message, I sent one defensive one back, and she blocked me on Facebook. It wasn’t either of our finest moments, but it made sense and there was a feeling of closure. I wasn’t worried she…

I would have paid good money to be a fly on the wall and see his face... Can I live vicariously through your badassery the next time I get ghosted?

Maybe you could write the message on his car ;)

I know it’s not much solace but hopefully this saved you from it happening 40 years down the road? When I hear those stories of men walking out on their wife and children, I think there must be a string of ghosted exes somewhere behind them, from before the marriage.

Similar situation, but it was with a close friendship that formed over one year. Things I have learned the hard way from that and two romantic ghostings. I’m not too guarded now, but not as naive either after those painful lessons.

I think that, while you are working on this over the long term, the moral thing to do in the medium term is to warn people you are starting to get close to that this is something you’ve done in the past. You could tell them that when it does happen on occasion, it has been because of your own health and not anything…

Breaking news: We’ve discovered why none of your relationships work out, and it’s not because the two of you didn’t really fit, or that either of you did anything to slowly diminish the goodwill you established early on by being selfish, lazy, or totally human in some other way. It’s because you were dating men…

you sound like a lovely parent. She'll find something she loves to do, and when she does, nurture it.

Do you have a spouse? Do you occasionally slap them too?

Resort to cold, apathetic disappointment. 2 hours of that will deflate the defiant stand.

Would your response to her be the same if she was describing semi-regularly hitting and yelling at her spouse? Would it all be copacetic then?

Would your response to her be the same if she was describing semi-regularly hitting and yelling at her spouse? Would it all be copacetic then?

Just an analogy on the whole temperament issue. Have you ever babysat someone else's dog? Same dog, different walker type of situation? With some walkers, the dogs pull at the leash, need to be dragged, carried, threatened, or kicked on their way. With other walkers, the dogs are lovingly and consistently taught how…

Just an analogy on the whole temperament issue. Have you ever babysat someone else's dog? Same dog, different walker type of situation? With some walkers, the dogs pull at the leash, need to be dragged, carried, threatened, or kicked on their way. With other walkers, the dogs are lovingly and consistently taught how…

Just an analogy on the whole temperament issue. Have you ever babysat someone else's dog? Same dog, different walker type of situation? With some walkers, the dogs pull at the leash, need to be dragged, carried, threatened, or kicked on their way. With other walkers, the dogs are lovingly and consistently taught how…

Thank you. Thank you so much for opening up about this. I hope you'll listen to this for your sake if not your son's. I was a smart, mouthy 4 year old. I am now a successful, kind adult. You sound very similar to my mother. Now that I am grown, my mother is sweet as an angel. But she will never be alone with her…