Exactly. My sig proposed to me 3 days before a huge out-of-state multi-day interview for my dream job. The proposal was a sweat moment, but I was so stressed from trying to prepare that I couldn’t fully enjoy it. Then we had to do the “performance” of the Newly Engaged and go to dinner (where Champagne was waiting,…
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I’m troubled that you think it’s both ok and normal that he wouldn’t have thought of her in deciding how to propose. Personally (as a guy) I would never, ever do that to a partner - or I’d at least check it was ok. Maybe that would ruin the surprise, but I think it’s unfair to ask such a life changing and important…
Bingo. He could have proposed when he receivedhis medal, sharing his moment with her. But nooe, he decided to make her moment about him instead.
The gold medalist was Shi Tingmao and, fuck, this was so not fair to her, either.
Actually, other outlets are reporting what she actually said after the proposal, which isn’t great:
Of all the boyfriends I’ve had I’d say that very few “knew” me well. It’s not a prerequisite. A relationship is for GETTING to know each other.
Hi, I’m 45. You can call me Botulism Woman.
If by ‘hurt’ you mean ‘interested in discussing the larger cultural implications of a current event’ and by ‘miserable’ you mean ‘capable of analytical thought’ then yes.
Just because he ‘knows her’ doesn’t necessarily mean that he knows how she would react in this specific situation or that he’d have the ability to look beyond his own wishes and biases. I’ve known a few people who were proposed to publicly or on other ‘big days’ like graduations/awards who wish it had been done…
The fact that many guys apparently don’t consider this angle at all and that it’s evidently common enough that it gets an “oh yeah, that’s just guys, whatever” reaction from many speaks to me on a lot of levels and not many of those are good.
Based on what I hear from a friend living in China a pretty big deal. Honestly, it’s still a pretty big deal in the US. As a never married 42 year old it comes up a lot. Like at my office.
Yeah you don’t train your entire life to not only get to the Olympics but to win a medal just to so your bf can interupt it by doing something he could have done at literally any other time. Couldn’t he have let her have her moment be happy for her?
My friend’s boyfriend proposed to her in public BECAUSE he knew she hated public proposals and thought it would be really funny. Thousands of people saw her smiling and whispering her answer in his ear and assumed she was saying “yes”. She was actually whispering “I’m going to kill you.”
She told me that this isnt sexism so i guess that settles it.
IDK though, OP’s effort at vaulting over the point into “let’s talk about my concerns” territory isn’t really good enough to net even the bronze.
Because people cant be outraged out both. Oh the oppression olympics are always so much fun to play.
Obviously BBC called it an ‘Even Bigger Prize’ because her husband will be the person responsible for her winning Gold in the next Olympics.......
I’d be so pissed. Let me have my moment, dude! I trained for this. Now it’s “OUR” moment. Now the night is about you getting down on one knee. Me being a wife. FINALLY. Let a bitch get attention to herself for once!
That's a possibility. Or given the way he just took over, I'm guessing she's gonna be in "second place" the rest of her life.