Bob’s Burgers had an episode last season on this very topic.

I have spent an unusual amount of time thinking about what people should call me, and asking them how they’d like to be addressed. It probably started when I heard a family member comment on how they hate the name my cousins use to address them, but felt it had gone on too long to be corrected.

Moses, but you were spot-on with the biblical theme.

Nothing like a Lonely Island reference in a Handmaid’s Tale comment thread. 

“Commander Stabler” is such a fitting moniker. LOL. 

Emily became a handmaid because she was a fertile “gender traitor”, stuck in Gilead because her wife and son were Canadian citizens, but she wasn’t.

Still waiting on my credit union (NFCU) to make this an option. Even just having $10 and $5 options would be great. 

My niece is neurotypical, but coming up with alternatives to hugs to show acknowledgement/affection was just as important. I wanted to teach her boundaries, affirmative consent, and be very clear that she was always able to choose something else when it came to personal space.

That’s not the advice that was given, though. It’s not suggesting that you say “no” to everything, but rather, Nicole sharing experiences from they own time saying it. 

Penzey’s! 

*hug* (not from Illinois, but agree that the options are weird)

When is the lotion being applied that it’s getting rinsed off? 

“It’s Summer-time!” + the kids flipping the birds off = super fun.

https://thetakeout.com/c/the-salty-waitress

Amongst folks I know, quite common.

Strongly seconding the Alfred recommendation.

It’s a pending comment. (Not linking to it here, but the username is ‘lukeguy’.)

Yep. I use it with my dad and 4-year old niece. It gets the job done, so I’m good.

When it comes to workplace tools, the decision is usually not yours to make, so you play with the hand you’re dealt. 

The audience for this advice is the fixer, not the one with the problem.