I've had many of these conversations over the past several months. And I've been trying to sharpen my perspective on this problem, the problem of the "how do I help," question. I offer these comments with compassion and great respect for your commitment to children and families:

Just help. Just do what your…

I don't know which is worse, the unrepentant killer or the man who insists to the end that he meant well.

i need a goddamn vodka.

Every time I read an article explaining how white people who think they are helping really aren't... this is the response from so many white people. "I don't know what to do then, maybe I should just do nothing?" If we stay inactive with the excuse of "not accidentally making things worse," we're letting the racist…

Your essay makes me uncomfortable. I honestly don't know how to help or be an ally. I work with kids in the family court system, either through abuse/neglect or juvenile delinquency/incorrigability. I want to fight for these kids, the majority of whom are POC. How do we do that without becoming a "good white person"?…

Did you even read this? Nobody is asking you to apologize. This isn't about you. The fact that you managed to be offended by this piece is a testament to just how much you don't get it.

I am a good white person. ... And do you know what? I don't see a need to apologize for it.

Victim blaming? I'm pretty sure Mayweather isn't a victim here.

So according to you that's not your 40, Mr. Cosby? OK, then.

Dear Jezebel reader: The word "every day" (or "everyday") is not in my headline.

No, not conviction rate. The conviction rate is 4% of total rapes, of which only 3% serve a day in jail. False accusations are wholly separate from convictions.

No, you're using it wrong.

1) They are baked into the 2-8%

How many false rape accusations have you heard of since then? None? One? A handful? And how many actual rape allegations? Hundreds? Thousands?

You might think so as a matter of logic, but there's no evidence to support that, and really what evidence there is points in the opposite direction. Believe it or not, most women don't want to be torn apart by high-priced lawyers and PR teams. If you want to extort an athlete, there are many easier ways.

Let's all marry that lady, it won't be weird

MARRY ME, LADY.