I'll say what everyone, including my big-swinging-dick-self, is thinking:

Related: The drinks at Starbuck's are still terrible, over-priced, will give you type 2 diabetes, and have very little actual coffee in them.

I wish I would've asked my ex if he really wanted to marry me or if he was just doing it to make me happy. Because it turns out it was the latter. And now we're divorced and it feels like the entire 9 year relationship was all bullshit.

I'm sure the author can take care of herself - please note that by 'shushing' hellagrossedoutwtfman, you are perpetuating a culture of secrecy - in this particular case, not allowing a victim to express her feelings and discomfort - and since most of what we communicate is projection, the question begs .... why are…

Her situation isn't the same as your situation, so your opinion on whether GSA is normal is kind of meaningless. Saying it's normal does nothing to lessen what happened to you. Saying one is normal doesn't make any and all abuse by people in authority normal.

Aw, wee lamb. It's okay. You're right, this is really OMGSOHELLAGROSSINGMEOUTTOOWTFMAN.

You need to learn how to not make everything about you. Your desire to share how uncomfortable you are with someone else' experience serves what purpose, exactly? What conversation were you looking to start with your original comment?

I never demanded that you act a certain way, I merely pointed out that it would be kinder and more helpful to do so. Your replies are increasingly belligerent and childish so I'm going to most likely bow out of this thread.

Yet here you are, continuing to comment.

You're allowed to be uncomfortable.

OK. So you don't care about helping. How about doing less harm than good. I realize that you believe you're not the only one who feels this way about the article. You're probably right. BUT commenting so goes directly to the author which is a little uncool.

But you could try to empathize.

That's fine if you don't why to sympathize but why publicly state it? That's my point. You announcing that helps no one. Not you, not her. No one.

Nowhere in the article was she trying to normalize this situation. I think she conveyed pretty well how screwed up it was and how screwed up she felt.

we have similar history (10+ years of creepy stepfather) and yes, this shit makes me vomit too - but at the same time, it makes me feel a little less gross or abnormal that sometimes I have dreams about WANTING to have sex with him - I've even had dreams where I HAVE had sex with him - many factors create 'wonky…

That's great and all but why do you think anyone (especially the author) needed to know, or even cares really, about your unwillingness to empathize or understand? Not every thought or feeling you have is important enough that you have to express it, especially when it only serves to compound someone else's trauma. I…

"genetic sexual attraction is normal" —- please don't say stuff like this. You follow this up a sentence or two later saying that you were an abuse victim. This is NOT normal, do NOT attempt to normalize your experience. This may be COMMON, but DON'T say it's normal. It is not ok.

It's kind of RIGHT THERE IN THE TITLE.

But you have plenty of desire to comment about your lack of desire to sympathize or understand someone whose experiences were not yours. Got it. Thanks for stopping by.

Natasha, the courage it took to bare your soul like this is immeasurable. I hope and pray you continue to find some measure of peace. Bless you.