I think you hit on it hard in one of your comments above—it’s an ongoing conversation, and the nuances are very individualized. The discussion around what it means to be bi vs pan just isn’t settled. As a bi person married to an enby person, I can tell you with absolute certainty that being bi does not mean being…

I get that, and I am definitely only reporting what I’ve heard from pan folks (as I am firmly lesbian myself). As I said elsewhere, I think that this is one of those issues where people’s personal perceptions of how a specific word represents them is why they may choose one over the other, rather than trying to…

Speaking as a trans person, I have not seen that it’s insulting to trans/NB folks. With that said, I’m not pan or bi, so my definitions will definitely be secondhand and not as reliable as coming straight from the source. One thing I will say is that there’s a difference between what I’ve heard people say (“I identify…

“Attracted to every gender, trans or cis isn’t important”

I never once said I was unable. I am simply unwilling to bother explaining it to someone who clearly doesn’t care, to someone who isn’t having a conversation in good faith. That’s the difference. But that’s probably a little over your head, too.

What if you’re attracted to intersex and non-binary people as well as people who identify as men and women?

Not necessarily. The only obligation he would ideally feel is a moral obligation not to be dismissive or degrading of others— not to go out of his way to call the way I and others identify as “stupid.”

So I guess then I’ll ask, and hope you’re not trolling: which part of the explanation I gave in the comment you responded to did you find confusing?

That’s how I’ve heard it described by some. Others have said that, as there are more than two genders, bisexuality implies attraction to two, so anyone who is attracted to more than two would use pan. I will point out here that I am a firmly binary lesbian woman, so all of this is secondhand for me and there may be…

This has been pointed out multiple times, so I know that I’m really just piling on, but the difference between bi and pan is that pansexually explicitly says that the person is into all gender indentification, included trans, and nonconforming people. While most people that identify as bi that I have known are also…

It seems like you might have missed the mark here. The folks I know who ID as pan do so because they feel like the “bi” in bisexual implies that they are really only into folks in the binary, and that excludes trans folks who are nonbinary. While this show’s explanation of pansexuality may have implied that trans…

Do non-binary or third gender people not exist on Earth? 

I’m usually smart enough to ignore someone who’s most likely trolling here, but since you’re already out of the greys, I’d like the chance to explain something: if the pansexual label seems “stupid” to you, then it’s not for you. Move on. It’s not that hard to do.

For the record, just opening a dictionary of sexual terms discredits your assertion. Second, even WITHIN the queer community there are people who have a problem understanding gender identification and sexual spectrum. So precise terms such as bi or pan HAVE their use. Not our fault if people are biased with their own…

Yeah, I don’t think the character having that opinion was the issue, but they could have been more explicit about highlighting the nuances. Especially because to me that scene also seemed to be about educating the audience.

She also calls bisexuality “so binary.”

I hope you get out of the greys so you can tell that story.

Also, I hope you write an amazing series about a kid who somehow befriends an annoying brat of a demon who tells him important information, and when he grows up they solve crimes together and stuff, because I would absolutely read/watch that.

Cool story (Genuinely! No sarcasm!) but this typo made me expect something much, much stranger:

“Something is going on in your room here too, the cabinet the old computer is in is randomly growing.” 

Ok granted we are all going to want to revisit these for the whole month- what are your tips for reading the stories? Sorting by oldest? Newest? After a week or so I can never find my place again. Jezebel FLOG please find a new format or something for these. Or close the post at midnight and make a new one each day.