agreed - but once you start chatting with someone, it's the usual dry, okcupid-style back-n-forth, rather than "hey, let's arrange sex." That's been my experience and that of a couple people I've asked about it (we're older than the usual users, for whatever that's worth). Could be that both parties are too polite…

Right - and because the straight app's connection to the gay app, some folks think it's a hookup app. It's not. It works like any any heterosexual pickup venue. In other words, you gotta play the straight game. Act like you don't want sex until you get it, then act surprised.

If someone has a thing you want (in this instance a vagina) they are the ones who ultimately decide rather or not you'll get it and they are the ones who set the criteria by which they will decide.

Not this. If you want to go public, put your name on it. Say "my name is blah blah and so-and-so raped me on xx/yy/zzzz. And the police and the university did shit about it" And stand by your accusation.

No one should support this. No one. If you want to publicly accuse someone of assaulting you, put your name on it. Plus, plenty of people have the same, or similar names. This list serves no purpose, and does not protect anyone. "Oh, I'll just get really drunk and go to a bunch of frat parties, then ditch my…

true enough.

The secret (for the shy solo traveler) is to pretend you're invisible. Don't worry for a second about sightseeing, eating, or strolling by yourself. You're just there to take it all in, every sight, sound, smell, texture. Like a benevolent observer from another dimension.

I didn't see the racism, as those are the "big three" for teen boys/young men all over the world, of all races. At least last I checked [quick browse...] yup, still is.

That's not necessarily true. I find that, after a second-or-later date request, dead air feels worse than a simple No Thanks. I'm not one to act out my hurt feelings like this winner, but I can't be alone in finding passive rejection more irritating.

Nah - one date. No explanation required, just a simple No Thanks. Then, if they get poopy about it, they're the jackasses.

You honestly think that the guy who called her a "self-interested princess" and "douchebag" for not returning a text promptly would have said, "I wish you well" if she had texted him back to say thanks but no thanks?

actually they had been on a date. This was his admittedly-feeble request for Seconds.

I agree. I was walking around the other day in a busy area. So many smiling happy couples. And lots of them included guys under 5'9" with nice-looking women. And tall handsome dudes with round-ish women. My first thought was "they did *not* meet online."

Some of the longer profiles come off as "I'm so fascinating! And my grammar is to-die-for!"

Also, it does not come off well.

she didn't make circles to dot her i's.

I bet mostly she gets messages like "Hey how's it goin"

No this is definitely real. It's an extreme case, but I find that 1 out of 4 women's profiles include include long lists of qualifications.

The story sounds off to me because on another site, there were other witness accounts, *supporting her* and none mentioned more than a single punch, and most say that she either grabbed or pushed his camera away. Now, she's saying there was some kind of extended beatdown, and all she did was tap him on the shoulder. …

Her story sounds as bullshitty as his (especially because I've read accounts supporting her, and none of them mentioned more than a single punch, then flight).