I hope this isn’t creepy, but I am also a godlessish liberal feminist so if you’d like to talk, PM me. Maybe we’ll get super lucky and be geographically close and personally compatible and then we can hang out drinking amaretto sours and talking over episodes of Happy Valley. Or maybe we’ll chat for a few minutes,…

I love literature. I love languages. I love traveling. I just can’t seem to make any of these things support me.

Klingon is what I like to think I’d be, Ferengi is what I probably am.

It’s late and no one will see this but in case some kind soul does: Can someone please tell me about a time they were unfairly fired and how they bounced magnificently back? Because I think I’m about to walk into a total fucking ambush and I’m just sick over it.

Is that really a thing???

See, I never saw her as perfect. She came across to me as kind of spoiled, willfully naive (especially for someone who supposedly read so much; can you really make all those literary and pop culture references without having soaked up a little awareness?), really self-involved (but so was Lorelai), and the various…

I guess I’m a bad person, because I’m kind of loving the idea that Rory ends up being one of those precocious kids who go to pieces at the first real high-pressure situation and then end up living at home working part-time at some diner because that’s their comfort zone and there’s always someone available to pat them…

Right?! Dean was promising, but then turned out to be too weirdly small town to be a good match for Rory, and what was up with that bizarre adultery angle???

I think the closer I get to Lorelai’s age, the more I identify with her. Even when she’s being a jerk, I’m just like, YOU TRY LEAVING HOME AT 16 TO RAISE A BABY ALONE AND SEE HOW WELL-ADJUSTED YOU ARE.

Oh God, they were all. so. bad. I especially never got Jess’s appeal: he was the rudest, most pompous, most boring version of Holden Caulfield I’ve ever fast-forwarded through.

Rory turned into the biggest asshole in the later seasons. I kept waiting for her to come back from it, but she just...didn’t. I think Lorelai wasn’t as bad, since even though she was being kind of unbearable with Luke, Luke was being kind of unbearable with her; sort of an Ouroboros of relationship suck. From what…

Does anyone besides me still watch The Good Wife?

Speaking as one overthinker to another, you should let this go. It’s clear from your post that this ten-years-ago ex of yours is still occupying a huge portion of your emotional space, which in turn is causing you to blow a minor interaction all out of proportion. Who cares whether the invite was deliberate? Who cares…

WE COULD BE FRIENDS.

The process of finding a therapist/psychiatrist sort of depends on your means. Do you have insurance? What can you afford? If you’re at school, there should be mental health lines and resources that you can take advantage of. Have you checked at your student center?

Okay, look, I am not asking you this lightly, but: Have you considered an institution?

I don’t know anything about disabilities or services for those with disabilities, but aren’t there programs that will set you up with in-home care for your child while you go out for at least a few hours? Like a helper or something? Is that something you could look into?

That sucks. Being ghosted is always hard. But sometimes, no matter what you do, people just have problems that you can’t overcome. I’m sorry it turned out this way for you, but at least now you can move on.

Maybe you should try taking the focus off of dating. Take up a new hobby, one that you can do in groups. Join meetup, or a team sport. Attend events and smile when you make eye contact with interesting people. Basically, get out there and expose yourself to possibility. Stop going on dates and start just experiencing…

Do you really want to have a relationship based on false pretenses?