I didn't want to be the first one to go to the race comparison, but I'm so glad you did.

Here's what you should think about, though: why is it so much worse that a bisexual partner *might* leave you for a man, compared to a lesbian partner who might leave you for another woman?

No, I think that absolutely makes sense!

Do you have some kind of data to back this up?

Yeah, what you're talking about is called Gold Star Gay, and it's pretty offensive to think that having slept with more than one gender somehow makes one less than others.

Absolutely.

Let me counter that: what's wrong with a woman having slept with men, if she's also interested in women? It's a silly prejudice.

Welcome to the community! Here, have a tiny flag to wave!

Wait, this wasn't already a thing?!

Whatever you identify as, that's what you are. If you decide you're bisexual, congrats, you're part of the LGBT community...no matter what some idiots may say. And if you're not sure what you are, remember that 'LGBT' is often followed by a '+', because it encompasses a LOT more than just those 4 things. In fact, one…

While in queer spaces, I often introduce myself as being queer rather than "bi", which I feel terrible about because it feels like a sin of omission, but I'd be really uncomfortable otherwise.

I wasn't out in high school, and I still got called a dyke. Sigh. Both offensive AND inaccurate, dammit!

Aaaactually...(and I know I'm going to get rotten fruit chucked at my head for saying this but) that fits better with the definition for pansexual (though god knows no one can agree to a single definition for anything); bisexuals *can be* but are *not necessarily* attracted to people in the way you're describing.…

Secret #1 of The Bisexual Way: You don't have to be 50/50 in your attractions to be bi! Don't listen to what stupid people say; even if 90% of your interest (either romantic or sexual) is toward one particular gender, that doesn't mean you can't be 'one of us'. That said, you also aren't *forced* to be one of us.…

I can't tell you how many women on OKCupid want nothing to do with a woman who's been with/is interested in men. Or refuse to date someone who hasn't already been involved with other women.

Well he says EVERY girl. That's a bold statement. Does he have a yearbook I can look at, so I can track down every single one of these former fake bisexuals and ask whether he just imagined this phenomenon. Because I'm not doubting that this may have happened with a few girls, but the odds of it happening with all of…

IT STILL COUNTS DAMMIT!

*sympathy hugs*

Absolutely. Obviously it varies from person to person, but in my own experience, the gay and lesbian community is far more hostile to bisexuality than the straight community is...and I'm not even talking about guys who think 2 girls making out is hot.

You do you! As I always say - and encourage others to say - you are whatever you identify as. Period. And if you don't know what to identify as, hell, you could just say, 'I don't know!' I like the bisexual label; I've never not felt like it fits me. But FFS, the bi community can't even agree on the definition of…