Not sure the kind of women you’re hanging out with but I’ve never heard any woman I know say that.

Maybe you need better girlfriends? What does it say about those women that they would put up with liars, cheaters and manipulators? Women are desperate, loser, assholes too. Also, I know plenty of nice guys who are married to horrible women who treat them like shit, so . . . I dunno. Just be the person who has higher…

I don’t even think that men are socialized to be spoiled brats. It’s just that they’re not socialized to think of emotional labor as part of being in a relationship. It’s not instilled as an expectation, and what’s worse, many men don’t even see emotional labor at all. Why aren’t teenage boys encouraged to babysit?…

That’s a good thing for a marriage! When you’re fighting you have to think “I can’t kill this person, I’ma need them to fuck me later and they’re the only one who knows how to do it right.”

All of my friends my age are married. None of the husbands are truly pulling their weight. I am constantly annoyed for my friends when they ask for so little and the men act like they are being asked to move Everest.

Um, maybe this is a dumb question, but as a member of this ~*new and wild*~ group of non-marrieds, why are we worried about marriage rates? Is it a problem for anybody other than the wedding industry if fewer people get married?

“Men to blame for low marriage rate for being unwilling to accept realistic sexual practices in potential female partners”

I’m in a very good marriage that I feel is a true partnership, but the dynamic described in the Harper’s article is very much present, and anecdotally, this is the case for most women I know. Not all, though, I have a couple of female friends whose husbands do the bulk of the household work. Bottom line, whichever…

Ugh this is my very annoying and super frustrating friend. He is renting a ROOM in a condo, living with a married couple (younger than he is) and their 2 very small children and 2 very small but doubly annoying yapper dogs. He hops from job to job because he is never happier than when he is miserable, never seems to…

I’m endlessly amazed at the particular type of man who seems to simultaneously gloat about how men can get sex at any time these days while lamenting the declining marriage rate (and blaming it on women usually).

So you like being able to sleep around but are dismayed women don’t want to marry you? What kind of life…

This ALL the fucking way. Women didn’t have the same independence and we’re finally up to at least 70% of men’s pay. We don’t need them. The Equal Credit Opportunity Act just happened in 1974. That’s really not that long ago. Now we stay with men if we want to, not because we have to. I feel like so many men are…

I think a lot of the blame also falls on the high divorce rate of the previous generation. A lot of us got ring side seats to the pitfalls of getting married for the sake of being married

This cracked me up because any variation of “I own a car and a home and have a good job” is an automatic left swipe for me on dating apps. Not because I “crave bad boys” like these guys would probably think, but because if these generic check marks are what you have to say for yourself and you think they make you one…

I think it’s interesting to observe couples because it’s fascinating to try reasoning how they objectify and project fantasies onto the other. Fascinating because I can’t fathom how so many unanimated golems of both sexes maintain those fantasies beyond superficial characteristics.

I suspect it’s also declining because so many men don’t have the job/car/home/grown-up life that women expect they should have. I think about my two closest friends, who are both now married to men who were living with their mothers at the time they met. More power to them, but these guys were each a goddamn project.…

This article from Harper’s Bazaar came across my desk yesterday, and I think it speaks to what you’re talking about. As I read it, I just kept thinking about how exhausting it must be to be in a marriage that isn’t a true partnership, which sadly I think is the case in many/most marriages. Some days I wish I were in a…

I don’t know about that. Most people between the ages of 20 and 40 who don’t live in a two income household are pretty fucking poor. Especially in densely populated, urban centers. That’s why 30 year old programmers and school teachers have roommates today. Or live with their parents, even as they work full time jobs.…

It blows my mind that men think “I have a good job and a car and a home and that makes me good marriage material.” Uh, no it doesn’t dude. You actually have to be an interesting person.

Religious nutjobs who want women to be submissive and know that if we don’t have to get married to losers we won’t.

But he’s a bit of an idiot, isn’t he? So why do, supposedly serious, people like the WSJ let him waste column space?