Eh, if you get it later in life sometimes you can make the connection. I got a mild headache/sore throat/low grade fever along with what felt like a canker sore a couple of days after making out with a dude, and then when my dentist saw the sore he was like “yup oral herpes.”

My brother did canvassing right before the election in a white suburb near Philly, and one of his co-canvassers, a young black woman, got threatened with a fucking shotgun. It’s insane.

This is the million dollar question.

Yeah, I grew up in a liberal/diverse school district and even though some of it was pretty apparent and openly discussed, I’m still learning shit. Less surprised, but still learning.

I had it once as a kid; there was a witch and I swear to God I can still remember the feel of her breath on my neck while she whispered in my ear that no one could hear me. I screamed and screamed until my throat felt raw but nothing ever came out.

Fried pickle chips are the only form of pickle I will eat.

YEP.

Fwiw the fact that a lot of men do seem to be getting the message and trying to re-examine does mean something. It’s not easy to soul search like that, so the number of men saying similar things all over the comments gives me some hope.

That’s fine. I don’t think he was trying to be anti-Semitic, but I do think it was some crap phrasing. I’ve certainly said my share of incorrect shit without thinking through the implications.

“What I’m saying is that there is a little truth to all the rumors so I’m going to die thinking that Jewish guys put their weiners through bedsheets.”

See, repeating the rumor doesn’t bother me as much as the fact that when people were like, “nah, man,” he doubled down with “lol I’m gonna believe it anyway.”

I’m Irish Catholic/half Jewish, I have 14 aunts/uncles and 20 first cousins on one side, and there’s a little truth to all rumors so I’m going to die thinking that you’re an antisemitic jackass.

Their CEO also looks like a model, if that’s how you choose your business endeavors.

I’ve had success with candles,* but you want to do it with a non-scented ones, which means you’re basically limited to tea lights and the winter holiday candelabra of your choice.

You... you know they still exist, right?

Emily Rosa would like to have a word with you.

And if your job hadn’t let you leave early, you’d have been screwed.

Ugh, I hate that. They try to justify it by saying they’re just listing the terms, but outside of a formal “we are talking about discrimination and the awful shit people do, so we don’t ever do it ourselves” framework, there’s no point beyond bragging that you know racist slurs. It’s not something to be proud of, dude.

FWIW, it sounds like you’re on the right approach.

Everyone seems to be saying the same thing, so clearly there are in fact real people on there! Bumble just never shows them to each other, apparently.