I have a friend who didn’t marry until her mid-forties. No kids nearly twenty years later but they are very happy. I have another friend who decided to become a single parent as she was approaching 40, had great support from her family, and is also very happy almost thirty years later. Live your life on your own…

InThe Atlantic article about the end of men, this was a topic that was brought up over and over and over again. A lot of women founded a lot easier to be a single mother than it was to find a partner to settle down with and have an equal relationship. I used to lament single motherhood, and now I totally get it and…

Everyone gets to mourn the relationship they intended to have

I know too many of these relationships - where the crippling fear of loneliness keeps people who don’t love each other together. I understand when companionship is the main driver for people in old age, but in your twenties and thirties, it’s sad to watch people be so, so scared of being alone.

A useful way of looking at dilemmas like this is realizing that the other person also deserves the same unconditional love and happiness you feel you’re lacking, and if you’re not the person to give it to them, it’s better in the long run for both of you to move on. “Living a lie” is absolutely a thing, and not a good…

We tend believe that a break up always has a dumper and a dumpee, and that the dumpee gets to be hurt and sad but the dumper is supposed to be happy or something. But that’s silly. Everyone gets to mourn the relationship they intended to have, that they thought would be their forever. You get to be sad about the…

The fact is, the anti-Semitic stuff he said, specifically, has led to repeated, violent attacks on Jewish people by individuals who buy into this crap. The guy who shot up that kosher supermarket in Jersey City? He believed this stuff. The guy in Monsey who stabbed five people at a Chanukah party? Ditto. Anti-Semitic…

Definitely- being antisemitic is just becoming a tool of the white Christian patriarchy. You’re not being woke- you’re just another cog in the system. Nick Cannon isn’t just another person anymore than Mel Gibson is and we shouldn’t minimize what he said. If Jennifer Lopez said “black people are dumb and only good at…

Every sane non-racist person calls out Trump and his followers incessantly. In the same way that we talk about Black Lives Matter and people come in with that “what about black on black crime” bullshit we can’t engage in the same whataboutism when people in our community mess up. Particularly when we’re trying to push…

I feel like this argument is a deflection. Everything in it is correct- however, Viacom didn’t (or at lease didn’t say) they fired him because of the anti-white shit. It was because of the antisemitism. And that isn’t just words, that’s stuff that actively hurts and provokes violence against Jewish people.

1) Its in bad taste to do it on a public platform with no consideration of Jill Scott’s feelings. Quiero is an insensitive asshole with bad manners.

Fuck Kyle Queiro. The problem with this asshole is that he thinks the only value of women is whether we are fuckable or an accessory.

My first thought when I read that fool’s comment was, “So because you don’t treasure brown, thick, unapologetically Black women, we are supposed to fall in in line?” My second thought was something similar: Here’s yet another Black man who does not love or respect Black women in all their shapes, ages, and colors. 

lol at all the irrelevant ashy niggas in the greys and other assorted trolls. Work on yourself and level up, and then maybe you’ll be able to be party to these discussions. Until then, your asses can stay mad and stay grey. lol

I agree with that first post, that he needs to go into concussion protocols. At what point does someone think it's okay to not only give unsolicited and unwarranted opinions on someone's attractiveness, but to then attack anyone that calls you out on your bullshit? How many knocks to the head does that take?

This is becoming a trend Black men going out of their way to say a black woman is unattractive. If other men find her attractive why do you care !? It’s like they are fighting to keep NON Black women the standard of beauty. SMFH

The problem is men discussing the fuckability of women as if women were inanimate objects marketed to consumers for the purpose of fucking, and the variable appearance of women is just the manufacturer catering to the variability of individual tastes, and thus it’s perfectly reasonable for a man to have a sniffy, “I’d…

“The topic of your beauty should not have been shared over public discourse.”

My sister, also a doctor, blocked me on facebook and told me I was no longer invited to my nephew’s wedding, because I said trump was an idiot for telling people not to wear masks.  Clearly, there’s a larger problem there, but that was her last straw?  

No kidding. I have a relative with a Masters in Nursing and is a Nurse Practitioner.  She drank that 45 Kool Aid and has become awful.  She totally believes the COVID vaccine / Bill Gates = satan / microchip conspiracies.  I can’t even with that level of stupidity.