she said she doesn’t hate men though, just that she’s afraid if this pattern continues she might start to.

i know it was, but there are tonnes of people out there who DON’T know that, and they need to be told what it is.

my 20s are a bit behind me now, but i definitely noticed at the time how porn was effecting the way guys interacted with me sexually.  not that i’m against porn or anything (especially anything with that one guy who looks like a bald version of michael fassbender in it), just how we don’t teach the young people soaked…

most of the comments on letter one are exactly what i expected to find in the comments from most dudes.

actually many of them are, because they haven’t had enough real life experience with sex yet to learn taht it’s not at all like the porn they watch. this is a real problem for straight women, even when we communicate openly with partners.

that’s rape dude.

spot on.

not reading this garbage from a toxic rapey rando on the internet.  you wasted your time typing that out.  byeeeeeeee troll!

it also didn’t go without notice that your response to my mentioning my experience with sexual assault completely lacked any human compassion.  like i said, people like you are not safe.

also i love that you won’t bother to try to argue with me, but you’re totally willing to make the effort for an ad hominem.  just what i would expect from someone who justifies sexual assault, poor character and pettiness.

thank you for not inflicting further justification for sexual assault on me.  i really don’t care to hear more from people like you who get so upset in consent discussions.  you’re not safe people.

i agree with your take, better call saul has been better than i expected.  i say trust the writers.

yeah and he said once he knew she was sleeping he did it again.  so he’s a rapist.

so many people in these comments trying to justify wanting to fuck unconscious people.  it’s super creepy.

no, since i’ve been date raped and been to therapy over it to learn about what consent is and what it is not, that gives me the insight into this situation. the rest of what you said is equivocating garbage. get direct consent or don’t touch people, otherwise yeah you’re a rapist. it really is that simple.

yeah you’re right, whatever your explanation is is bound to be creepy and disturbing.  and i’m aware that things that are pathological are turn ons to other people--that’s why there are sex offenders.

one can have a measure of vanity to their personality without being a full-on narcissist.

what is the point of sex you won’t even remember? that just seems pointless and creepy to me.  also rapey, if a guy wants to be able to have sex with a woman and have her not have any control or consciousness of it and not remember it later.  there’s so many red flags there.

yeah, but conversing and having sex are different things.  if you’re having sex with someone who is unconscious, you are violating their consent.

as someone who has been dateraped, i don’t need to consider this further--i am well aware of what an absence of consent looks like, and this guy admitted to it in his letter when he says he knows she was sleeping and had sex with her anyway.  you need help, bro.