That does seem to be in common with the ideas of some trans folks I've been reading - they don't want a "trans" identity, they want a straight (or gay) identity where they are seamlessly accepted into mainstream.

I don't participate in a transgender culture, so perhaps my comments here are misguided—I'm prepared to face any ignorance I may have. However, I do think that transgender culture is a thing. Trans* people often form support groups or even social groups. I think trans* people often consume trans* specific…

A good gf of mine is a great respiratory therapist. (You ought to know, a good respiratory therapist is a nurse's best, best friend. Manage that airway, babe!!) My pal also happens to be African American. Some old coot rejected her as his therapist because, black. His respiratory status deteriorated to the point he…

I have one! One night, while working as a hostess, I was doing my job and about to sit a party. A group of men in their 30s was leaving the restaurant. I say goodbye to them and thank them for their patronage while starting to lead the other party inside. At this moment, I fell a hand under my dress grab my butt…

Dear Sir,

Well... I definitely know transgender people who know other transgender people, and talk to their fellow trans* buddies about trans* issues. Does that count as a culture? People bonding over shared experiences who develop a language to discuss those experiences? Or is there more to it than that?

Kat, you write some of the most excellent, insightful, relevant, and best pieces for Jezebel. Thanks for what you do. Please keep doing it!

I haven't seen much in the way of a specifically trans culture. It seems like there's just not enough of us in any geographical area to form a local culture, and the way social systems work on the Internet means that any community I find on here is fundamentally different in tone from meatspace. I have definitely…

I am not aware of any trans culture either, although I am fairly isolated. I am 40. My bet is that you will not find a single trans writer reference trans culture. My guess is that it is a construct of the non-trans community. For what its worth, everyone I know seems to conjure up images of drag queens every time the…

Indeed they do—there is a famous soccer player from there I will soon be writing about, actually.

I would love to see you do a take down of the entire piece (warning, it's long).

There is no single gay identity anymore, let alone a single look or style or culture.

Whenever a community I'm a part of starts using terminology that is utterly baffling to me I just take it as another, depressing sign that I truly am getting old.

Her experience as a transgender woman of color is one thing. Her influence is about her turning that experience into a message that impacts people's thoughts/feelings/beliefs, and how widely she is able to disseminate her message. It's that last bit that kind of takes Cox out of the running. People who know who she is…

egg white flips taste amazing. A gin flip is like a soft fluffy gin cloud melting in your mouth into a rainbow of drunk. Ain't nothing wrong with a gin flip, like a pink lady.

Ramos gin fizz.....gin, lemon, lime, simple syrup, cream, orange water, egg white, blended. It's like a summery gin milkshake. A lot of ingredients to dig out of the cabinets and 'frig, but oh so lovely.

Pisco Sour.

Yes, we should be normalizing all things pink and sweet and fruity as things that men can enjoy, too! It helps break down the idea that feminine-coded things are emasculating or lesser.

Whoa, yes, every bartender should know how to make a sidecar. Isn't that, like, a VERY standard drink?