Pissed as hell for three reasons.

1: I'm on the rag so nobody can do anything right. Sorry about that.
2: These are real women, for sure, and so are haute-skinny models, but so are women with wildly different skin and body types. These ladies are lovely but they are not the kind of representative, incredibly unique…

Having a Sudden Clarity Clarence moment here: my super-conservative rosary-club-founding high school friend from my days as a hardcore Catholic — the one who trashed me when I got outed a few years later, called me a monster and then made me switch my entire class schedule so she wouldn't be subjected to classroom…

It ... looks like jeweled sperm are creeping up her arm. I am so sorry. She's GORGEOUS though.

I LOVE IT. definitely ordering a few when i get home from work tonight.

I'm sorry, I don't think I made it clear enough that I completely hear what you are saying, from that viewpoint. It does seem silly if you look just at the numbers. For example, in a 2009 study conducted with the help of over 100 organizations, 12% of respondents identified as transgender or gender non-conforming.…

You are magic.

I'm not entirely sold on that. I think that even if there were a less crummy term than "other", it'd still basically be saying "hey, if you are happy publically cleaving to one of these two very specific labels then go for it, but if you want to identify yourself as anything else equally or differently specific you…

Good points. I think, perhaps because it is so grating, "ze"/"hir" (the latter of which, you're right, is SUPER confusing in spoken conversation) also has an othering effect. "They" works pretty well in my experience as a bartender who likes talking about my partner but doesn't always like gendering him to random bar…

"defuse the tyranny of the gender binary" — I want that on a shirt. In grungey home-painted lettering.

The singular they/them was good enough for Jane Austen so it's good enough for me. "It" is a poopy way to refer to a person and reinforces the othering a lot of non-gender-binary or non-gender-normative feel on a daily basis. "Ze"/"hir" never seems to catch on, no matter how hard we try. I wish there were a more…

I'm sorry. I hear what you are saying, and I'm not in this discussion to butt heads over something we are obvious of two very different minds on, so I'm going to step away. If you are ever looking for reading material, Eve Sedgwick's 'Epistemology of the Closet' is a good way to start — that's how I was first…

You did, though. "Male" and "female" are labels too. Additionally, many many people would argue that gender isn't binary at all; even genitalia (which it sounds like you might be equating with gender, which is another inaccuracy) aren't as either/or as one might assume. The terms, btw, come from years of work,…

I'm confused. You claim to not "feel the need to label people" but then promptly labeled in a gender-binary format. I know it's a super pervasive structure, so you might not even notice that you did it that way, but you did. So as long as you're allowing people who identify as Just Male and Just Female to use those…

It sounds like a reasonable simplification but here's the thing: having to click "other" on every set of boxes sucks almost as much as having to pick a label you're not. Actually, scratch that, it sucks exactly as much because it is exactly as bad. Non-binary-conforming people aren't "others" in any sense. It's…

I'm not clever enough for .gifs, so THIS. credit for art: Akifumio

did anyone else catch the part about FOUR VAGINAS? and how THAT is the reason this dude is so pro my body hair? christ, i have enough trouble getting reduced to being one set of walking genitals; i do not need some dude telling me that i am only worthwhile because i have four of them that he can fantasize about. brb,…

i am 300% done with the phrase "date rape". drop the qualifiers. don't soften it. it's rape.

hey thread people you are amazing. today i'm in the middle of a lot of forgiveness work surrounding my own past rape, and it's the self-forgiveness that i'm finding the most challenging (along with the knowledge of how fucked-up that fact is). i'm humbled and inspired. just ... big love, peeps.

your comment is interesting and i don't think that i really disagree with it. however, to take another tack on a point: i think you're pretty right that, for a majority of harassment behavior (which does not involve specific threats of violence et cetera or things against which legal action can be clearly taken), we…

oh my god your orgasms are different sizes and shapes too? i mean, i'm not going to say that i thought i was weird, or alone in my experiences, but in all my sex convos (i have a lot of them; they are my favorites) i have never heard/read another person describe orgasms that way.