I also listened to that same Terri Gross piece and felt like I wasn't in on the joke. I wanted to like it more but I couldn't. I felt that the selections they chose were very samey

You did great. And I really think you are on to something. Again, another small sample size, but I have never been with a man who appreciated ANY attempt of penetration without A LOT of warning.

I am so proud of you and so happy! I'm going to check on you and see how you're doing. Go you!! Go you!!

maybe I shouldn't use Scarlett O'Hara as a reference :/

This would not be news 75 years ago. And girdles have only gone out of style within the last few decades anyway. Just for perspective.

I don't mind a hickey now and then if it isn't on my neck. The WORST is when you say, "can you stay away from my neck? It looks tacky" and he flat out ignores your request and you don't feel like being too assertive and you end up with huge black hickeys on your neck anyway. GOD

My experience was very similar. I had no idea how to refuse touch that I didn't want.

Nothing quite like receiving the morning-after snapchat of "mmm smells like fresh hot vagina"

I agree with you in the regard that Stoya is probably pandering to men. That statement of hers was pretty exaggerated. Having said that, I have tasted some good dick in my day. As well as absolutely rank dick. Maybe it's a little freaky, but good dick is indeed pretty good. But it is indeed weird, and a minor bonus at…