i dislike the implication that people can't be "just friends" even if one does have (presumably unrequited) feelings for the other. if everybody's in control of themselves and reasonably sensitive, how does one person's potential pants-feelings negate the existing friendship? that's some insulting business right there.

the "prove you were raped" business is somehow the least problematic issue here. just like with child support, it doesn't matter how you got that kid or whether you want it. what matters is that it now exists in the world and requires food to live. are you making it more difficult for said child to acquire said food?…

i learned sexytime mechanics, oddly, from an children's educational video i had around for some reason. i really liked the animation and watched it repeatedly, so by the time all my classmates were giggling about peeing into each other's belly buttons, i was a small walking reproductive textbook. as such, i didn't…

i think totally homeschooled (that "gift to the universe" phrasing sticks out to me). plus, the words she can and cannot spell make perfect sense: "creative" is the sort of word you'd put on a spelling test; "pregnant" is likely not, unless you're working on science.

i didn't change my name when i got married, and immediately people began asking what would happen if we hyphenated our hypothetical daughter's name and then SHE got married? what would she DO? my response was always that if my grown-ass child couldn't figure out her own name by the time she hit marrying age, then…

is there some context for the "if a woman is dry, the sperm will die" line? because it can also be read to mean that if you want a lady to get pregnant, she should be really enjoying herself.

i have (though it's tricky indicating all those footnotes out loud), but i didn't know it was a thing i got to brag about! i know what I'M doing this weekend!

i agree that excellent sex trumps excellent chocolate, but even terrible chocolate beats some of these sexytime options (i'll take a pass on the facials, for example).

while i don't think public sex is SHAMEFUL, i do think it's pretty uncool—i haven't consented to be party to your sexing, and yet here i am, waiting for the toilet and trying not to listen to your moaning. and as lady who has to pee approximately every ten minutes, i'm really not down with people who monopolize the…

can anyone explain to me the point of a "blind trust"? why wouldn't you want to know where your dollars are going?

people aren't *entitled* to 90% of what they buy. i'm not entitled to an ipod or a massage, but i've paid for those. prostitutes "take on" that provision because sex is something they accept money to perform. i'm not sure why that's wrong.

"of course not. nobody NEEDS gravy/stuffing/pie/ice cream. let me know when you get those jetsons-style nutrition tablets patented!"

for what it's worth, i was recently at this: [www.plannedparenthood.org] and it was AWESOME. there were at least half a dozen state legislators in attendance and the mayor declared November 6th Planned Parenthood Day in Austin. yeah, PP is safer here than probably anywhere in Texas, but still. it's not all bad news.

F YEAH SMITH COLLEGE.

it doesn't matter what the 13-year-old boy is thinking. he's a minor, and it's rape.

formulating abortion as a "last resort" is also deeply problematic, considering the extremely limited availability of late term abortion in the US.

i would only use the term "anti-choice" to refer to people who want to render abortion illegal, which it doesn't seem to describe you. you'd never get an abortion? you'd advise your friends and loved ones not to get abortions? ROCK ON. that doesn't deny anybody a choice about anything.

um, i would go to that one-man show in a HEARTBEAT.

i'm not saying it's acceptable to lie, or that dishonesty is the fault of the person being lied to. i AM saying that "going ballistic"—which i'm defining as lost temper, complete with yelling, etc—in response to the truth is bad, and potentially abusive, relationship form. in ANY relationship. want to be lied to by…