Abusive: “Sell your PlayStation. If you loved me you wouldn’t want to play your video games.”
Not Abusive: “If you loved me, you’d want to spend even a little bit of your free time with me.”

...right

That’s the reality of living with someone whom you’ve designated to be a partner. Offhand, that sounds like an incompatible amount of time. I’m sure it works for some couples but usually those couples are called “roommates”.

Having a hobby is not carte blanche to doing that hobby to the exclusion of the rest of your life. Don’t get married if you want to value your hobby above all else.

Actually I think everyone is arguing that he should spend some time with her, even non-sexually, instead of freezing her out five+ nights a week.

Why is she obligated to contort herself to his kind of selfish demands? Where does he compromise?

Dude have you tried talking to a counselor or therapist? I’m not being facetious, either.

This is hilarious. So if someone enjoys something, no matter what it is or how deleterious of an effect it has, their (partner, family, friends) are obligated to indulge it? Pretend he’s gambling four hours a night, pretend it’s model trains. Something less personal to you than gaming. Maybe he enjoys high-risk day…

lol no

But... why even get married? She isn’t asking to be the center of the universe. She’s asking for a fractional amount of his clearly bountiful free time.

You’re the one with the gamer husband right? It sounds like you have a *very* specific type of relationship and it would be folly to attempt to apply your model more broadly.

#notallgamers? Or is this a “methinks the lady doth protest too much”?

I think she’s asking for some of his ~30 hours of gaming a week. This is not unreasonable.

lmao no

You think *that’s* the problem here?

Well, he got married so now he also has his long-term binding relationship to consider. And he’s not taking care of that, so I’d say his hobby is bordering on addiction because it’s directly affecting his life.

Man you’re batting .000. I’m quietly LOLing imagining someone, in good conscience, defending your viewpoint (sexualizing children is okay or at best morally gray). It is one of the few things that is always wrong.

They highlight the movie “Kick Ass” in the “Kick Ass” category...

These are not the “amateurs” of Zumbo’s Just Desserts. These people are generally rank amateurs, and they’re tasked with sculpting and gum paste flowers. They were asked to make a tiered wedding cake inside of three hours. That’s an irritated “no” from me.

You didn’t like the dirt water dessert?

That one was so good! The Jordi Roca one was... not.