See, I'm 5'5" - everyone's tall to me. And thankfully he didn't want a super-skinny girl either.

You knew what this post was about before you came in though. So why the outrage?

You really want to know?

I've only gotten to go to one ridiculously over-the-top wedding, and it was truly amazing.

Hey Jessica, will you do a similar post on the best wedding presents? I feel like a greedy jackass but man I loved getting wedding presents :) Cash is all fine and good, but some of the gifts - oh my.

Is it Ceresville Mansion? I love that place!

As long as it's on a weekend, you should be ok. ZipCar or Metro/taxi? Not cheap but cheaper than owning a car!

I get what you're saying, I do. But I think Jessica's point was to create just one place where people could share this without getting the "well I picked wildflowers and put them in mason jars and had a $20 wedding in a local park" posts - because they do get obnoxious and make people feel bad for what they chose to…

I didn't date for, like, 7 years and then when I was 32 I was like "eff it, I'm giving online dating a try."

ok, can I be totally gauche and ask about gifts? Because with a wedding that expensive you must have gotten some AMAZING gifts. Tell tell!

"I would have said I would be happy with a court house wedding, & pocketing the money for a down payment on a house, but now that I know how much fun everyone had that night, parents, us, friends, family friends I hadn't seen in years, I don't know if I went back to do it all over again if I would change a thing."

Which pattern? I did Sams flowers too! (for some reason I was thinking it was Costco, but I remember now it was Sams) - I got the fall bouquet package with sunflowers. So pretty!

I know someone with a very similar story. Huge lavish wedding that her parents were pushing on her. She loved it, but beacuse that train was coming so fast she was ignoring some nagging feelings that there might be problems.

Mine is an educated guess, to be completely honest. I remember all the big bills, but the little stuff - not entirely sure.

I'm at that stage of life where all my friends have kids, so inviting the kids made sense and made it easier for the parents. We did it so the older kids could come and go from the childcare in the room upstairs, or the parents could dump the children there and enjoy adult time :) I really liked it!

Not that I know of, and most importantly - not to my face :)

I edited mine to include the splurges :)

Mine came in right around 20k. Maybe just a tad under, but I want to play because I tried REALLY hard to keep it low and this seemed like a bargain in my area:

Must every post about wedding expenses turn into a brag-fest about how cheap everyone's weddings were?

Christ. What's the point of all this civilization we enjoy, if the argument against eating medical waste comes down to "well, wild animals do it!"