The week before our wedding I made my husband promise that even if he decided he didn't want to get married, that we'd at least go through with the wedding and reception and then not file the license and/or get an anulment. I just couldn't deal with the humiliation being left at the altar if he decided at the last…

Thank you. I should have scrolled further before I posted similar sentiments. Trashing the dress is just so gauche and wasteful. I'm currently looking for charities to donate mine to - I don't want it to go to waste.

I really, really hate the trash the dress photo shoots, including this. It's just so wasteful. You have a perfectly good dress - it seems to me the worst of modern American wastefulness that you would just destroy a perfectly good garment for the sake of some photos.

Ha, it really is :)

That the child will have to live with the guilt and trauma of this is heartbreaking.

Here's my advice:

Victim blaming? I'm pretty sure Mayweather isn't a victim here.

I really wanted an Indian wedding...but neither of us are Indian. Still, the clothes, the food, the entrance (a horse!!!) are way better. But being that neither of us are Indian it would have been some awkward cultural appropriation. Not to mention the pearl-clutching grandmas having to eat curry!

Oh I wasn't really responding to you, just the terribly stupid lyric :)

It's not decimating West Africa. It's affecting three, possibly four, countries. It's a horrifying disease that's getting a lot of press - which is why these celebrities are out taking advantage of it. Meanwhile, none of them (except Bono really - and he's insufferable but he has at least made an effort) has done…

Did you ever hear Sun City - the Artists United Against Apartheid video? It's SO perky and smiley - you have to think most of the performers completely forgot they were supposed to be protesting something awful.

I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro last year - there's a fuckload of snow up there. My fiance and I kept signing the "there won't be snow in Africa this year" line and laughing, to distract from the pain and lack of oxygen :)

627,000 people died of malaria in 2012. It's a highly preventable and treatable disease. But sadly it's not as headline-grabbing as ebola, which has killed less than 1% of the number of people killed by malaria.

seriously. If I want a vacation I'll take a vacation. It's going to cost me either way. And on a real vacation I promise you I'm not staying at some god-forsaken all-inclusive resort like Sandals or something where you're fucking up the environment and doing almost nothing to help the people of the impoverished…

No. It's fucking rude to have a destination wedding. You're just saying fuck-all to your guests, you know, the ones you're supposed to be THANKING for being part of your day and lives. Wedding receptions are supposed to be about the guests. And if you're going to an all-inclusive resort somewhere - ugh. I'd rather…

I wanted a dress like that. Unfortunately when you're a size 16 it's a matter of finding a dress that doesn't look terrible.

this is stunning.

exactly. I'm getting married in less than a week and changing my name. I'm a feminist. So is he. It just makes sense for us.

Au contraire. October is the most popular month for weddings here in the DC area. I happen to be having my own next week. ACKKK. Need a, um, gin and tonic, in fact.

Honestly, my pit bull would like the face of an axe murderer in the process of killing me, but I like to think she looks scary enough to keep most of them away. At least she would give us warning.