When people say autistic like that, they don’t mean dedicated though. They mean dedicated to the point of being abnormal. You can assume what you want, but there’s a pretty clear negative connotation.

I would say when the effects of using the word are harmful. When you use “autistic” as a synonym for “obsessive” or “introverted,” it enforces the negative aspects of autism in a way that can make autistic people feel self-conscious about how they act and the amount of time they spend on their hobbies. I’m not…

Ugh, it’s like everyone awful from Gawker decided to troll the rest of the Kinja sites.

Have you told him directly that you want him to be in better shape, and the reasons why? That could potentially clear up any miscommunications about the seriousness of how you feel. It might be better received if you had some suggestions ready about how the two of you could address it together. I feel for you, my…

I don’t have experience with those two situations, but if these guys are mansplaining to you, I’ve sometimes had success by repeating their advice in a light-hearted, sarcastic way - “Oh, so that’s how you [do simple thing]?” Then the better ones will realize what they’re doing.

I’ll re-read Lord of the Rings sometimes when I miss the past. I think Tolkien did a great job of expressing that longing when you leave your childhood home, and then outgrow it.

That’s so exciting! Good luck. Even if you don’t find anyone tonight, I’m sure you’ll get some useful experience!

Tacos! My local grocery store just started carrying chorizo.

I’ve seen bunches of butterflies like that, too. Always wondered why they do that.

That’s true, but university leadership in general is also pretty terrible. It’s not like most large colleges have any kind of good track record dealing with sexual assault.

Very thick and curly. More than one loop is a pain to remove, and a single loop didn’t give me as much hold as I liked. But if you don’t mind a loose grip, these could be great if tighter bands give you headaches. Otherwise I don’t know why other people seem to like them.

Very thick and curly. More than one loop is a pain to remove, and a single loop didn’t give me as much hold as I…

I gave these a try and wasn’t a fan; I think you have to have a particular kind of hair, maybe.

I gave these a try and wasn’t a fan; I think you have to have a particular kind of hair, maybe.

I recommend giving Faeria a try. It’s a lot like Hearthstone, but I think there’s more room in the meta and acquiring the nice cards is easier and less necessary.

About the last letter: I’m a nerdy woman and often I stopped engaging with guys who seemed excessively nerdy. Too many times, the conversation went one of two ways:

Yeah, I came here exactly to say that. I’ve met guys with multiple interests who seem to pick one and just give a speech about it when they’re nervous - whether other people care or not.

I didn’t have a bf until my 20s, so I empathize. For me, it was mostly a confidence thing, and I had a lot more luck after learning to like my appearance more and actually talking to people at parties.

Mine was at a really nice venue with a large outdoor area. I don’t regret getting it, but everybody went outside instead of staying around the dance floor. The flowers were way too expensive and I was going to DIY more of the work, but ended up running out of time. We had an open bar and it cost a lot less than…

(ie fixates on one issue with a work to the exclusion of the ability to discuss other aspects)

These situations aren’t directly comparable - the former is trying to equalize men and women, while the subject of this article is about a racial inequality more than a gender one. People are rightly skeptical that the girls will receive an amount of spending proportional to their performance relative to the boys’.

It’s depressing, but less so if you think about how this is pushback from things getting better for women. These people used to be more quiet because things were going their way and there wasn’t any reason to complain.