I understand wanting to share a last name with your kids. It is convenient. What I don’t understand is automatically assuming that it’s the woman who must change in order to have the same name as her kids. Nope, my kids have my name. Suck it patriarchy!

I respect people’s right to make their own decision, but it bewilders me when people are willing to get rid of their own name because they have negative feelings about family members who share the name. I don’t see why the fact that it is your name and always was your name isn’t enough. Also, as someone who is married…

“Good! Don’t take his name. By the 3rd or 4th wedding it’s just a hassle.”

Absolutely keep your name!!

I took my husband’s name when we married mainly because my name was long and complicated and I didn’t mind giving it up for his simple last name. HOWEVER. I tell any young woman whom I think might listen to me to keep her name. Use his name socially if you so choose, but LEGALLY don’t…

Yesterday Ellie Shechet published an article about Birthright and how she’s ambivalent about Israel. She needs to get it straight. Israel is a settler-colonial, apartheid state that systematically annexes land and slaughters innocent people.

If this was the case, no one in their right mind would ever accept a home loan. How many individuals can save up their whole life, only to be able to buy a house in their late 50s or 60s in cash? It doesn’t make sense. Buying a house with a home loan is better than paying rent. Sure, you might be paycheck to paycheck,…

If you are out of work, like I was at age 31 for 6 months, then this advice does not apply. A key assumption in any financial advice is that the advisee has an income.

“You have to assume there is some sort of income.”

Bravo. Thank you for saying this, Eric.

I was told that I needed a credit card for emergencies, so I got one when I was 18. I used it to put gas in my car to get to work when there was a glitch with the paychecks (I was naive and thought it was simply a glitch). When I was laid off after that (without being paid for…

That is how to do it, sure. I think it’s also important to remember that if you truly have nothing, “make more money” is no more helpful than “spend less than you earn.”

How is not knowing he was in the coast guard racist? I didn’t know he was in the coast guard either. But I also didn’t read any of the articles about this because so much hate was going on and I thought my head would explode if I read one. more. word.

Well, that’s the court of public opinion for you. We’re contradictory in that we’ll gather all the info we can JUST so we can find fault with it and be nestled in comfort in our own little bubbles. Stepping outside of those is the toughest part, especially for those of us insulated by our privilege.

No, I’m with you. I don’t really disagree. I just hate that there seem to be these trials with the public in which people seem to be debating just how decent or terrible the victim was. I know that’s not what you were doing, but just in general, whether this guy served really shouldn’t be germane, but I get what…

I see your bear, and raise you a moose family playing in sprinklers!

Not to mention bread is nutritiously shitty

I think the problem might be....

While I totally agree with you, being the plump person of a naturally thin mother who was (big sad sigh) always trying to gain some weight I will say that using (used to be) only unnaturally thin models (most live on nothing a day, this is public record) and rarely just average (or even a little under) sized models is…

Several of my older relatives were all broke and living on fixed income, but somehow managed to open up new credit cards shortly before they died. They racked up toonnnnssss of debt, buying us everything we’d needed for a long time but couldn’t afford, and when they died, there was no property to go after anyways.
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@LutherNipperkin: I also don't think it is xenophobic of us to suggest that the pads and tampons available to Westerners are likely more efficient and effective than the alternatives developing countries have been using for centuries. Other cultures have been dealing with menstruation since time began, but that…

@LutherNipperkin: Very nice explanation. I agree that working to deliver modern fem hygeine products is important and helps keep girls in school/women in the workplace, and helps to dispel the idea that women are "unclean" during their period, which is prevalent in many parts of the world and plays a significant…