Oh I’m glad it was helpful! :) Also congratulations btw!

‘Valve valve, pump pump’ just doesn’t have quite the same ring to it.

You want the venue booked a year out. Ideally you send save the dates about 6 months before the wedding, invitations 6 weeks before. Find a friend or family member who doesn’t stress out easily—you will need help the day of the event. Make lists. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do, everyone has their own ideas.…

You have so much great advice already, this is just one little mental shift I’d offer as advice: Plan backwards.

“None of it matters. If at the end of the day you’re married then the wedding was a success” - My poppop.

A couple others have mentioned getting married in Vegas which I also did! It took so much stress out of everything. If I had to do it again, I’d still either do it in Vegas or have a courthouse wedding with a fun party after.

First do nothing for like 4 months and fend off every comment about it during the holidays with “oh I will def take that into consideration! MOAR WINE”. Then get a rough idea of how much money you might have/want to spend. Once you have that you can then use Martha Stewarts wedding budget (you might have to sign up…

My advice? Enjoy your engagement and don’t worry about the wedding for Awhile - like 6 months to a year. And then do something simple. Focus on how great each other are at this point in your lives. Be happy.

My only advice is to work money in the budget for a rehearsal-to-day-of coordinator. My brother and sister in law planned the whole thing themselves and every single person in both families almost got disowned. But my mom paid for a day-of person to walk us through what to do and to handle any emergencies that came…

I am anxious as well. We didn’t do any vows and made the ceremony less than 3minutes, then it was party time and the pressure was off. The scariest part was walking down the aisle for 5 seconds. That is all I had to survive.

When both of my sisters were getting married, we visited several venues over a year before the wedding. We found out what the cost was, data availability, and all the various details.

I am not sure if you will find this helpful or not. I am pretty much the same way as you. My M-I-L wanted a wedding but I wasn’t sure how I would do. Mister Babylon and I decided to get married first and then have the ceremony. We didn’t really tell anyone so when we had the ceremony I felt no pressure. We were all…

If it is in your budget, I HIGHLY suggest getting a wedding planner. My planner has more than paid for herself just in the discounts she’s gotten me (just today she saved me a $250 delivery fee by saying she’d just pick up the linens herself).

First thing to plan is your venue and church (if you’re having the ceremony in one). Once you’ve got your date locked down, book your photographer, band/DJ & florist. Start looking at honeymoons. Do NOT book your ticket with your married name to be all cute because your ID will not match your plane ticket and a lot of…

If you can swing it, get a wedding planner. If that’s not possible, my advice is do not just rent a raw space that you then have to bring everything into (and likely get licenses and insurance for), because that will require a ton of coordinating on your part. Try to find a venue with a dedicated event person,…

Omg the whole ceremony was something I was dreading as an anxious person too. We made it as small as possible and as short as possible. I had a panic attack the night before. And then I giggled nervously through the entire ceremony. But they still let you be married if you do that. That’s the good news.

MrsJujy and I had 2 weddings. We went to Vegas with 3 other couples and had Elvis walk her down the aisle. We did the 2nd with a Rabbi for family and friends a month later at a restaurant where we had our first date. Both cheap and quick. If you want more traditional, I agree that you need to plan at least a year.

Congratulations!! We relied heavily on A Practical Wedding and Offbeat Bride, if you haven’t checked those out yet. We used Vistaprint for our save the dates, invites, and table numbers and they came out great (and CHEAP if you snag holiday deals). If your family is big on propriety, you can check out Emily post for…

OOH. One of my BFFs just got engaged and has found this book really helpful. She also is very lost in wedding world and has found it to be, indeed, a practical guide to wedding planning. It’s also nice because it’s like “fuck what everyone else says you should do. What’s important to you and your partner? What do you…

If you can afford it, it might be worth getting a wedding planner. I didn’t have much experience with weddings before mine and there were several little things my husband and I just didn’t think of.