My therapist would say that if you haven’t acknowledged what happened and how it impacted you, it will still be there. But it will leak out from time to time in weird ways. Like you might overreact to something simple, or get triggered and not know why. He says that once you really examine it and really deal with it,…

Sending you hugs, I am glad that you have a good friend to support you. This shit is so hard. I am going back and forth on watching this movie, maybe it would be good to help me feel the feels and unpack them, but maybe it would be too much?

That’s really interesting. I am 39, got divorced last year, have a kid. Am in a great relationship and...All this shit is coming up. I’m in therapy and my therapist is helping me process things in a trauma intervention style. He says that it is pretty normal to try to dump things down the memory hole only to have them…

“Anger’s not healthy.” This bullshit makes me, well, angry. Fuck that shit, denying and suppressing anger is not healthy.

I liked the book but I loved the show. It was really well done. I recommend both. I almost never watch a show or movie twice but I watched the whole thing twice; they did such a good job using visual elements to emphasize themes.

I’m so sorry you went through that, and that this is bringing up a traumatic experience.

Wait wut? There are white people in Africa? But...Why would a white person go to a shithole country? (in all seriousness I am white and lived in Benin in West Africa for two years and am absolutely enraged)

I love how he implies that Africa is a country too. He is so horrible.

Yeah, my department merged with another and I ended up managing a guy who was paid more than I and I was PISSED. I luckily found a way to leave shortly after that for a sizeable pay bump thank god.

Damn, sounds like you really made the right call. So nice to have a boss who backs you up isn’t it? My boss is very respectful, gives me credit for my work, pays me well, and supports me. He’s in his late 50s, and is by far the best boss I’ve had.

This is the best articulation of the issue that I have read.

One of the things that I liked about her editorial is she links the harassment to work. This has been lost in a lot of the discussion about the me too movement. There’s been a lot of hand wringing editorials I’ve read in the past few weeks about how we don’t want to be anti sex and treat women like fragile victorial…

Maybe a better chance than Franken who barely won.

Thanks for suggesting, I did the same.

A lot of his supporters seem to like his cruelty. I think that is the appeal. They are angry at the establishment for a variety of reasons and like seeing him attack.

I’m with you. Sometimes there’s a nice sense of shared humanity in playing peek a boo with a baby.

Absolutely. There’s no way that this wouldn’t have been an issue in his reelection. I think in the long term this is best politically, as well as morally right.

As a former Minnesotan, I am hopeful that someone who does not grope women replaces him. Sounds like it might be Lt. Gov. Tina Smith.

This is by far the best summary of the situation.

Good. He was accused of harassment by multiple women. There are consequences to actions, and he should face them. It sounds like Minnesota Governor may be tapping the Lt. Gov. Tina Smith as a replacement, which would set Minnesota up nicely to have another woman senator.