I love reading and couldn’t get through Dune even when I was living in a hut with no internet and a limited selection of books. I finally read it recently, by read, I mean listened to the audible version which is excellent!

YES to this! I divorced my ex as he was absolutely useless as a coparent and I needed to guide him to do anything useful. Once divorced, he had to figure shit out when our son was with him. I got free time that allowed me to pursue creative projects, friendships, and better dick. When my kid is with me I am a better…

Women are crazy and emotional and need to be controlled! What a fresh take!

I think there is a lot of pressure on her from her dad, others related to the conservatorship to cultivate this image. Sounds like she didn’t have all that much control over this as she was afraid if she didn’t play their game they’d lock her up again.

Yes, I just read that Deb Haaland, the Interior secretary in the US is doing a commission to look into it in the US. I hope that there is a full investigation and the truth comes out.

This is an important point. These kids eventually became adults, many had their own kids. The trauma will echo through generations for years to come. Which was the point I think, to break the family systems. It is so fuckedup.

Thank you (and others) for sharing your experiences. I struggle with feeling self hatred, and my depression is tied up in that. You’ve given me a lot of food for thought. Maybe I can accept who I am, depression and all.

Holy shit is this ever true.

Totally! Sex can be such a playful, silly, fun activity.

I agree, ideally it is a give and take and both people are attuned to each other.

Honestly, a lot of it is him. Again and again, he would stop if he sensed that I was anything less than enthusiastic about what we were doing. When I gave him feedback he listened and responded. He doesn’t pressure me to do anything I don’t want to do. He is supportive and encouraging about exploring things I want to…

I thought so too, but apparently AHP provided a quote for the cover so maybe it is different enough to add to the conversation rather than replicate it?

So much this. Coupled with so many bad sexual experiences, like where I felt pressured to do something that felt good for him but did nothing for me.

It’s all just so much more nuanced. And as you note, much more about men too. I really wanted to get married and settled down in my 20s, but it took a while to find someone who I thought was good enough to settle for. I thought that I was clear eyed, no one is perfect, he’s good enough, etc. Turns out good enough…

Reading between the lines, I assumed the father is an anonymous sperm donor.

Yeah, I love it when my husband occasionally has to work late or works a night shift. All that alone time feels decadent.

My husband and I have a huge house (long story related to his youthful folly). Downside is that it is a lot to clean. Upside is that we each have our own spaces. I have a room dedicated to art (also doubles as a guest bedroom) where I can paint and make a mess. He has a room devoted to his video games and home…

There is so much to unpack here. Maternity leave is one thing, but getting men to take time off is another. But the problems aren’t short term, as you point out. The last as long as you have kids in school. I was shocked when I was getting my son started in kindergarten, I couldn’t figure out how to get the school to…

My dog of 12 years died this past spring. She died in her sleep early in the morning on a Monday; I couldn’t take time off work, and it was awful. My heart goes out to her, and I understand taking some time off; losing a pet is heart wrenching. They become so entwined in your daily schedule, and their love is so…

I am so sorry. Losing a pet is horrible.