I needed this. Between the DACA news, the West coast being on fire and the southeast under water, I needed this.

Holy shit what a horrible person! And I bet he calls himself a christian.

I don’t know if people like that can change though. People in my life just continued to blame others when they were cut off. Then made new friends.

Oh my god how horrible! How old is your nephew? Maybe you could do things like volunteer to babysit him that make your sister happy but don’t involve interacting with her too much? That poor child.

I can really relate to this...I was the one who got out and it has been profoundly frustrating to me seeing my sister “stuck” trying to get something from my mom that she just couldn’t give.

What a horrible nightmare! I am so sorry!

I wonder if your sister is somehow trying to heal the wounds of her own childhood by maintaining a relationship? I think my sister did that; she never moved away from our hometown and always was kind of seeking something that my mom wasn’t able to give. It was so interesting, as soon as my mom died it was like my…

I really get what you are saying. My mom was toxic to me, manipulative and emotionally abusive. As I grew older I set firm boundaries eventually maintaining a superficial relationship with her that was more or less pleasant. I did want to maintain a relationship with her partially for my son. I wanted him to see where…

I had a moment of horror last year when I realized that I owned a pair of Ivanka Trump shoes. They were fairly plain black kitten heels that I had had for 4 years or so. Of course I immediately had to throw them in the trash. I just...couldn’t wear them anymore.

What a horrible human being. I really think he needs to reread the gospels again and think about what Jesus would do.

Who gets to decide what is a waste of time and what isn’t? I have done a lot of self portraits over the years, and I find something kind of powerful and profound about looking at myself and drawing what I see. I get the appeal of looking in the mirror. Who is this person looking back at me? I also like make up. I like…

Agreed. Women are so harshly judged for how we look. And we can’t win. The latest trend is the “natural” look. Which is awesome for people who naturally look beautiful. For everyone else it means a shit ton of make up that looks like you have nothing on. We are judged for looking like we have make up on, and for…

I agree. I think that the jeans and a plain t shirt looks kind of sloppy on me. I see these gorgeous model types who make it look elegant but...I just can’t pull it off.

Thank you for this. I am so fucking sick of hearing the civil war was about states rights. It was specifically about the right to have slaves.

I know! Where will it end?

This is terrifying. I went to a meeting and came out to the following headlines in the NY Times:

I think you will like it, good companion to You Must Remember This.

There’s an interesting podcast that explores this in depth and looks at how celebrities work and present themselves to pop culture called Show Your Work. I highly recommend it.

Fantastic article! Thanks for sharing.

Exactly, that’s how I interpreted him when I read the book.