True, my former mother in law was the worst about this, she also judged the shit about the food she was served and blatently assumed it was my job to make sure the family was fed, in spite of the fact that I worked longer hours.

It’s an interesting argument because a lot of mom’s don’t really show their sons what they are doing or how they are doing it like they might show daughters. My ex-husband was utterly clueless about how much work his mom put into family gatherings, say, because she never looped him in and he was too lazy/obtuse to…

This is so, so important. There were many red flags in my former marriage before it started. His place was a pit, he hated cleaning, didn’t know how to cook...But he said he was committed to being tidy when we had a decent place. LOL. I am an idiot. He was profoundly lazy and got lazier every day.

This works well for my son too who is 5. I tell him how great it is to have help, how much I appreciate it. He takes great pride in his chores, he automatically cleans up his dinner plates, feeds the dog, etc. He actually gets pissed when someone does his chores for him because he is so proud. God I hope this lasts...

“Yet still we have to ask nicely even when we’ve already asked twice, we have to be strategic in the way we frame our requests so as not to spook them, we have to modulate our tones so as not to seem angry even when we are angry. This is absolutely how reality works in most heterosexual domestic arrangements, and it’s…

Those people probably had really awesome childhoods, I’m jealous.

That pretty much summarized what I was coming here to comment.

Yeah, like Pandora for make up.

Contouring. It just always makes people look kind of muddy. And that example just reinforced this view.

I love Naked 3! Such pretty colors.

Thanks, I am in need of alternatives and the Pinup Girl website looks awesome!

This is so disappointing! I recently started shopping from Modcloth, and I liked that they have diverse models, a lot of clothes manufactured in the US, and reasonable prices. Shoot. Any recommendations of other companies that I should check out?

That’s really interesting and smart. I wish I would have done something like that with my ex-husband, it probably would have surfaced some stuff that we could have dealt with in advance. If I ever get married again I will probably try to do some sort of preemptive couples counseling just to tune things up.

A cardigan without shoulders is just pointless, stupid and cruel.

You will pry the leggings I wear as pants from my cold dead hands. Also I like the ripped knee trend because it allows me to tell myself my years old jeans that are falling apart are fashion.

I am into the mom jeans thing. I have a long torso and big ass and fuck, so nice to have jeans that cover my bum.

I’m so sorry. I have a son and that made leaving my ex so much more difficult, I can’t imagine what it would be like with three kids. I agree with what CharityFroggenhall says, I was amazed by how acquaintances stepped up and helped and supported me through the process, and I hope that you find the same. It’s horrible…

I just recently got divorced myself and reading her essay gives me hope that true partnership and long term love exists. I am grateful that they were willing to share their love with the world through the essay and her husband’s statement.

That’s so heartbreaking—I think people are uncomfortable with raw grief, and want to sweep it under the rug. Either thinking it is for the best for the grieving person to not talk about it, or for the comfort of the person listening to the person in grief.

Thanks for this, this is such a powerful interview. I am bookmarking it to reread. Two things that really jumped out at me, at least in the first reading.