I still miss the Vane, so fucking much.

Yeah, guy, you’re missing the entire picture.

Love. Kids. Fear of the unknown. The fact that I worry about what would happen to him.

I have friends and family nearby but I don’t talk to them about this because I’ve let myself become a door mat and I am embarrassed by it. Which is a whole other level of absurdity - but I am nearly over that hill. Plus I don’t want my parents to despise him if he is going to remain as my husband.

Mines 32. I don’t think he’ll ever get it.

Exactly? Why the fuck would you even get married and have kids if you would rather cut off your arm than be with them?

The shit part... When we met I was going to school so I could be a teacher. I was passionate about it, realized it wasn’t going to pay the bills so I switched gears. Business management - what fun >.<

He did... Only problem with that is that he always just ended up out drinking with his friends when things were slow.

You know , the worst part of it is I wish he would find someone else. He obviously isn’t happy now. I still love him. And I still want the best for him and for him to be happy.

In live in FL. I got swamps and gators and beaches :)

Kinja is being Kinja and not letting me edit my post - But I just wanted to say thank you for all the advice, the support and the “your not crazy” replies.

A-freaking-men

Thank you!

That is a lot of sharing :)

With your kids, did you do counseling for them? Did dad stay involved? Did they have trouble adjusting?

My advice is drop his ass before your life is so tangled up with his that it is almost impossible to leave. If we did not have kids, and it was just me and the kitty cats we would be gone. Even if it was just a separation to try to work things out. Its so much easier without kids.

We went that route once - before I kicked him out - but we stopped going because he felt she was biased and was blaming everything on him...

I do and I don’t.

Not for more than a few months at a time - never his fault when it falls through, naturally.

There is the damn rub. Although “watching” them is a pretty loose term. I’ve figured that I *could* afford child care were he to not be in the picture - the problem comes in when the kids are sick and can’t go to school / daycare. 3 kids could easily knock me out of work for 2 weeks if the flu hits (as it always…