This exactly. One BIG MEGA IMPORTANT part of BDSM and "consensual nonconsent" is talking about it in advance and setting clear boundaries/safe words/etc. You never ever ever ever never ever never assume that your partner (especially new partners!) is saying it for shits and giggles unless you've EXPLICITLY spelled it…

The worst thing that could happen to these GG shitwizards is the swift and sudden realization of their actions followed by a lifetime of shame and regret that never feels adequately sated by any apology.

"I'm not saying she deserved it, I'm just saying that if you sing songs about partying, you should go ahead and expect people to drug, rape, and abuse you in response."

Look, I appreciate a good Ke$ha joke as much as the next girl, but this shit is HEINOUS, full stop. Eat 'em alive, girl, and take no prisoners.

You don't feel as bad as you think you do.

Because I keep getting the feeling that people are conflating their 'omg this is weird and gross' reactions with the excuse that 50+ surgeons wouldn't take this on, when in fact it seems like the ethical concern (as I understand it) is that the procedure is dangerous/unprecedented. My point is just that people do a…

I guess I can't edit my post to add this, BUT:

I am aware of all of this.

I'm aware that they don't do those things, but doesn't that raise an interesting discussion in of itself? You could morph yourself into that lizard-dude without ever visiting a medical professional and never find yourself the subject of a weirdly shamey-sounding Jezebel article.

See, that makes perfect sense, but that's definitely not the vibe I get from quotes in this article. The concerns raised rarely seem to sound like they're coming from a place of "this is dangerous and unprecedented, nobody wanted to take the risk", but rather "this is weird and makes me uncomfortable and 50-60…

There typically aren't surgeons assisting those people, as most can be done by a qualified tattoo/piercing shop who has someone trained/certified in subdermal implants and whatnot. There is no mental health screening there and I think we can all agree that the walking cat-guy with whisker implants is at a far greater…

See, that makes perfect sense, but that's definitely not the vibe I get from quotes in this article. The concerns raised rarely seem to sound like they're coming from a place of "this is dangerous and unprecedented, nobody wanted to take the risk", but rather "this is weird and makes me uncomfortable and 50-60…

Can anyone shed some insight on the ethical issue of this? Everyone keep saying DUH IT'S SO OBVIOUS, but I honestly don't understand what ethical issue would prevent that many doctors from doing the surgery. We have people who get transdermal devil horns, fork their tongues, and cut/scar/brand themselves for aesthetic…

This dude named Michael used to ride motorcycles...

Sending you all the hugs! Your feelings are completely valid and completely understandable. I can't imagine what you're going through, but I think I'd be feeling the same thing in your spot. It's always easier when it's someone else's body, someone else's life. I hope you find peace, whether or not you end up having a…

I've been in the "never want kids" camp for a long time, but have recently been entertaining the thought a little more than usual, really hashing out my conflicted feelings about potential parenthood and this kind of touched on one major insecurity of mine.

dear diary

Not at all! I have bent over backwards and taken appointments months out to ensure I could get on with a female OB-GYN for this reason. I think it's a relatively common sentiment, given the nature of the specialization. If you're not comfortable, you're not comfortable. There's no sense in seeing a doctor you can't…

I always feel a sense of guilt whenever I've needed to choose a new gyno and decline to consider the male doctors. It's not that I don't think they're competent, professional people capable of giving me good care, but I am certainly not expressing any kind of unique or unpopular sentiment by saying I'd just prefer to…

Fuck De Beers and fuck every last one of their diamonds. They deserve to have their offices and vaults flooded with the stench of 7.1 billion people farting in their general direction.