You know where this really matters — not how the guys feel about the women they work with, but how they feel about and behave toward their own lady life partner. Sandberg makes the point in Lean In that one of the most important things a woman can do to determine her career success is partner up with a man who will…

As a long-time Reese Witherspoon admirer, this is all-around disappointing, but that quote from the cop might make it all worth it. Top three things in it:

Agree completely. Pointing out that someone else's political behavior has weakened the ATF's ability to respond to a crisis is a legitimate point, and during that crisis is exactly the right time to make it. I have no problem with his comment, and I think its inclusion in this article at all is a false equivalence.

"Compliance with gender roles doesn't make you a good person."

Unless the "values and needs and culture" of the "a lot of ladies" that you're talking about involve people believing that having AIDS is a deserved punishment for sins, and that a woman who says "no" can and should be be successfully seduced by having sex with her anyway, then Lindy's criticism doesn't tear anything…

Sorry, I got riled up and posted my response to you instead of who I meant to respond to, so I just moved it. I'm with you.

I'm about to say the most crankypants old lady thing I've ever said in public, but I really believe it: I think that public behavior among strangers is on the decline, and I blame MTV. The idea that one must "stop being polite" to "start getting real" is really pernicious. The idea that being polite is somehow fake…

I don't think it's rude, excatly, to say "no problem," but it is significantly different from "you're welcome." Someone pointed it out to me a couple of years ago, and ever since then I've been making an effort to say "you're welcome." For the reason someone else mentioned, basically that "no problem" seems like…

This season, the girls of Girls are barely ever together, and this episode was another example of it. So many of the episodes have had them all completely separate, and now Jessa's gone completely while Hannah is losing her shit alone in her apartment. None of them are thriving without their friendships to help them…

I don't think Tracie's recap quite gets it right about what's going on with Adam. Seeing Hannah shook him up. Specifically, she made him feel like a giant fraud with his rom-com, engagement-party, nice-sex-in-a-clean-bed girlfriend. So he proceeds to punish himself, first by drinking then by acting a way that he knows…

If you want to read something that I think does an excellent job parsing all the subtleties of the scene, check out what Amanda Hess wrote at slate.com.

I read the NY Times piece yesterday, and I also read about 400 of the comments. It was fascinating to me, because I honestly thought that the only possible response to this story was What An Asshole. A 68-year-old man goes online to find an 18-35 year old woman to bear him a child and believes that this European…

#mylovelybabybump is really, really funny. I've never thought of Stacy Ferguson Duhamel as a wordsmith (to say the least), but man, that's good.

I'm fine with lady and ladies used as a general term for adult women. It can definitely be used in a sexist way, but that's true of a lot of words and in my opinion doesn't earn it an across-the-board nyet.

Hyper-correction is the scourge of corporate America's emails. People are so fucking afraid of the word "me" that they contort the shit out of perfectly simple sentences. "Between he and I" has even spread to "Myself and Joe will meet with them Monday." It is MUCH more of a class and education marker than an honest,…

Too late to edit, but it's the psilocybin in mushrooms that I was thinking of.

I'm actually much more interested in the studies that have shown how incredibly good for interpersonal relationships it is to do a little acid. There's a positive effect that lasts FOR MONTHS! I've never done it— actually never done any drugs, I'm way too much of a control freak — but I am convinced that if they could…

I blame Spencer Pratt.

This doesn't really tally with my experience of watching tv lately. Isn't the big tv story of the last few years that it's becoming a female-audience-dominated medium (while movies get more and more male-driven) and where all the great actresses over 40 get to have their own shows? I thought that was the narrative…

World's cutest crime against nature.