yeah, I HATE that! plus when men are all "why aren't you wearing high heels?" when he's basically in pajamas :-(

WHOOOOOOOOOOOA. God did not waste the double dicks on the wrong person.

To that one black kid to another...money won't shield you but know that black people who have never met you will always think of you.

Purposeful obtuseness or derailing or actual ignorance. Hard to know. I don't feel I need to give them the benefit of the doubt.

Exactly...I have two black parents but grew up in an environment that was predominantly white. I went to a private school so a lot of the kids were insanely wealthy and as a result, on many occasions as a kid, either alone or WITH my family, we found ourselves in spaces that we are normally not permitted (we were…

I think a lot of people don't get that the laughter coming from a lot of black people (including MHP, who has a white Mormon mom herself), is coming from a place of sympathy and discomfort.

No shit; to me, that goes without saying. But if that family doesn't, then even if its a black American, that would still be good for the kid. Especially in a place like the US that cop doesn't give a shit if you're of Haitian or American descent. All they see is black. Its good to be prepared for that.

Actually, having friends who're not just of the same race as the adopted child, but also connections to the child's ethnic heritage is probably best. Having multigeneration African-American friends isn't going to help as much, for example, if your child was internationally adopted. African-American culture is very…

If you play the lotto I suggest playing the number of people who showed up on this thread to call you a crazy, angry, black lady.

But you know it takes more than a class to learn that right? You can't teach what it feels like to be oppressed. You can't teach empathy. And as an actual minority, I learn new and awful things about what it means to be a minority every day.

Oh yeah, but we don't have any statements that show that his mom and grandparents were in bed with unapologetic racists. It's not the same thing.

I doubt this has to do with the fact that a white family adopted a black child. One cannot ignore the fact that out of 25 grandchildren, they only recently adopted a black child and gave him a name that translates to black or dark skinned. Not to mention that Mormons do not have the best track record when it comes…

Yep. Meanwhile, conservative politicians are doing everything they can to take the right to vote away from people who look just like the Kieren Romney. Never forget who the real racists are.

I agree with Devonna. As a interracial adoptee from the eighties...there was more of a focus on COMPLETELY including the child, so they don't feel different in the past. I've heard this from a few older Korean adoptees as well when the South Korea adoptee boom was happening the in late seventies/early eighties. Now,…

Yes, that's pretty much it. If you're a white couple planning transracial adoption you should have a diverse network of friends, family, neighbors, etc and be conscious of privilege. It's not exactly rocket science.

I don't see anything wrong with interracial adoptions, but I do think that it is important to have that close friends that are the same race as the child to prepare them for the real world and also to let 'em know whats up. A friend of mine, was adopted by a white family, and they had a her spend time with a black…

This is absolutely a real thing, I agree. My parents are Caucasian, I am not. But I think there are tons of resources to help parents work with their children to navigate some of these issues. And I think being adopted into a loving home can be better than spending one's childhood in foster care.

Seems reasonable. After all, the Mormon church has admitted black people are acceptable in their doctrine since ALL THE WAY BACK IN 1978.

Oh, the GOP will love this kid until he's old enough to date their great-granddaughters or vote.

Psychological issues about race and identity in transracial adoptions are a real thing. There's a good chance that that kid is going to have some tough issues to deal with.