I really feel for you, it sounds like a tricky position - you feel something is off, but you also want to keep your job, but you also want to do things right. I really hope that all this debate we are doing is slowly pushing the unfair things to change. In general I really hope that people don't get judged for what…

You have repeatedly harassed me since yesterday even though I have stopped commenting and I have reported both of you, and I will leave it up to them to look at all your comments and decide whether it was harassing or not. It is extremely common in a debate for people to accuse each other of "not being able to read"…

I go to LMU and in my theology classes there was always this, "well, this is what we Jesuits believe in, so it isn't right for people to criticize" going on regarding dropping abortion coverage. I asked, so aside from abortion, why is it okay for people to be sexist, or sometimes homophobic/racist under the guise of…

I actually know some men who do that too. It's like this mindset that they must prove to themselves, "I am not THAT girl/that kinda guy." It kind of makes me think if they were raised in a really shame-y environment - about sex in general.

I feel you. Of course it is a bit scary, watching people you know and care about deeply just "disappear" literally and figuratively when they meet someone new. I have friends who I dearly love who do that, and I don't hear from them for years until they meet a new person or when their relationship escalates to a near…

I know those people(J.Lo) too, but I feel like people really give them a hard time. If your marriage fails, I don't think we should give up just because we might have filled someone else's quota. I think it's brave that people keep trying, to be married, to be in love, to keep dating. And some people have to try hard,…

I know those people too, but I feel like people really give them a hard time. If your marriage fails, I don't think we should give up just because we might have filled someone else's quota. I think it's brave that people keep trying, to be married, to be in love, to keep dating. And some people have to try hard, meet…

Hi truthhurts14, thank you for a really detailed and well written comment - I really appreciate that. I agree with you and definitely see your point on the part when you said, "clothes sold to girls in styles that would be better suited for adult women with an adult understanding of their own sexuality, capable of…

Right, my ass was handed to me by someone who harassed me by calling me a lunatic. Just because our opinions were different. And then the said person kept commenting for an hour straight telling me "just because our opinions are different doesn't mean you can stop responding, you lunatic."

I'm just going to ask you. You don't think that policy for teens, "burqas for everything, boys and girls" will teach that their bodies are shameful, that they need to keep it covered? I doubt that the kids you raised that way will turn 18, and bam, learn to embrace their bodies more and choose how to wear clothes.…

Please tell me you don't think wearing short shorts or wearing v necks is the same thing as showing penis.

But it isn't like any of these people we were mentioning were exposing their private parts. You were talking about inane clothing like showing straps, showing legs, breasts. If a guy after a soccer practice took his shirt off? Okay. A girl? Shame. There is shame going on regarding how bodies are inherently sexual and…

What is so dangerous about an ass crack? Again, not this notion that body parts are just too inappropriate and distracting.

What is a definition of a sexualized clothing? A clothing that makes people want to have sex with you? Remember perverts will assault anyone regardless of what they are wearing. If people harass someone for what they are wearing, it is those harasser's fault. People shouldn't judge others according to what they wear…

Hi Bearblue, I think the line is for an individual to decide. Not other people. Who other than yourself is going to draw that line for you, what is comfortable? Also, it can be problematic that the "line" needs to be drawn by women, and not men - if somebody harasses a girl for wearing something, it is the harasser's…

When people reduce you to your body for what you wear, it is the people's fault and not yours.

I definitely think you should act the way that makes you happy, and not play to the world's code. I do not hang out with people who shame others for the way they dress. And yes I can and you can choose the people you surround yourselves with.

"sexualized adults" is a misleading term. Every human being is a sexual being, because our bodies are sexual, in that it has sexual functions and we are all sexual creatures. Children and teenagers develop and find their own sexuality, and in many cases there are some young women who are comfortable with their…

Your comments are beautiful and so on point. Please never stop writing

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