For a song who's narrative is; "I cheated on you, lied about it, you dumped me and have a new girlfriend, but I still want to take you home because I done fucked up," Cloverleaf-style pending apocalypse wouldn't have been my first guess for video themes.

ISIS and North Korea I believe are two groups we will look back on in history and mourn that we let millions of people suffer while we watched and did nothing.

Except the relationship portrayed as a "BDSM" relationship in the book/movie is not even close to what an actual BDSM relationship is like. The book does romanticize an abusive relationship. Do not get the two confused.

The Christian Gray character is emotionally abusive. That's not really debatable if you know anything at all about the story. This has nothing to do with the BDSM aspect.

You're both right. BDSM is not abuse, but the relationship romanticized in the book (and I assume therefore the movie) is definitely abusive. Not because of the kinky stuff, because of the emotional manipulation and frequent lack of consent.

No, they aren't, but 50 Shades attributes Grey's need to be violent to his abusive childhood, the book makes it seem like Anastasia actually doesn't like the whole pain thing but wants to keep Grey around so does what she feels she has to, he does super stalker-ish things, etc. Actual BDSM relationships are all about…

Wishbone never said that BSDM relationships are abusive. They said that 50 Shades of Grey romanticizes abusive relationships. Which is does. 50 Shades ≠ BSDM.

I think Wishbone is refering to the other aspects of the relationship that are definitely those of an abusive relationship.

This is so fucked up on so many levels, not the least of reasons being that there is no regard for the CHILDRENS' safety in all of this.

It is egregious enough that they aren't considering her, but even if we set that aside for a second, how could it possibly be emotionally healthy for those children to be contacted…

Maybe there are some things that should mean you forfit parental rights. Like you know almost killing your kids mother.

That is some Jane Austen level shade. Always hide your shade behind a compliment. Perfect!

"I tried it but it wasn't my thing. I'm probably too old to get it." = Not Shade.

And again, North West had a WONDERFUL time at the shows. Hey 'parents', maybe your accessory has a better time at home with her nanny?

HER STOMACH LOOKS LIKE MINE!!!! HER THIGHS LOOK LIKE MINE!

By normalizing and dressing it up. Why do you feel so compelled to defend it?

Part of it is what's mentioned in the article, if you read it. Part of it, and this is more personal to me, is that it portrays BDSM in a pretty terrible way. Yes, maybe people will read it and then decide to do more research and find out that 50 Shades is not, in fact, about BDSM at all. But other people won't do…

Plenty of young women like me, who were not taught what emotionally abusive and controlling relationships look like, are reading it and loving it and not even realising that the behaviour of this terrible character is appalling and so not acceptable. It's normalising the abuse that Christian Grey puts the…

What I don't get is why Jezebel, which is supposed to be "feminist" has decided it needs to tear this book a new asshole for not being... what?

I read it in the midst of an abusive marriage and used it to justify the abuse I received. My husband acted like Grey and that was apparently sexy and what women wanted, so I just have it good. That was literally my thought process, so yes, at least in one case, it did influence someone to stay in an abusive…