If it's something you worry about, you probably haven't ignored a cry for help. It takes a distinct lack of giving a shit.

It can get easier, it did for me. But part of it is being proactive, if you lose the tools you need to help, find new ones (healthy, positive tools). Do whatever you can think of to help, and remember that it won't always be this bad.

I mean, no one here is arguing that it didn't happen. The issue is, why would you then make something so horrible and violent look sexy and fashionable? It.... your comment makes no sense.

Exactly, it's offensive to both genders.

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ugh, you're one of those types of people. Okay here you go: You're totally right, and everyone else is wrong and anyone who disagrees with you is stupid and mean, and probably a homophobe. Happy?

Well, maybe if people didn't come on here with the express desire to start fights by belittling others and sarcastic comments...

wow, that cross must be so heavy to bear.

I mean, you're talking down to the regular and avid user of condoms, polyurethane in fact, because of my latex allergy. So you're basically being very very rude to the exact type of person you're saying everyone should be more like.

So let me get this straight: You post what seems like a valid question about birth control, which then very quickly launches into an attack about how straight women are stupid sluts who have no personal accountability. When I call you on your not-so-subtle attack on women (good thing you're on a feminist website) you…

I mean, I have pictures from my mom carrying me in a baby pageant. I was oneish, I was just in a normal Sunday Best Dress, no makeup or anything. My mom said I got the best personality award (probably for not crying or shitting myself on stage) (humblebrag). It wasn't this clusterfuck that happens now. So I would say…

Here's my birth control.

Ohhh, I see now. I thought you were actually trying to have a conversation about use of birth control. Nope, sorry, you just want to be a dick about how horrible/stupid/sinful straight women are.

Hear, hear. Not being there is one of the reasons I quit drinking.

Fair enough :) Sorry if I got feisty about it. When I was a teenager you would have had to pry fashion magazines from my cold, dead hands, because I loved fashion. The models gave me some body issues, but what probably brought on the full blown eating disorder was the "helpful talks" my parents would give me about my…

JOANN'S FABRICS I SAY!

So what's your solution, forcing women to cover up while teaching sons that they can't and shouldn't have to control their urges? I don't really understand what you're trying to prove here.

Is... is that a problem? Letting a girl play with Barbies while educating her that this isn't a real person, and teaching her about healthy body images? Allowing her to read fashion magazines, while reminding her that models have a body type for a very specific job, and although they are beautiful, they aren't the…

No, but if someone is deeply in love with you and you don't feel the same way, you have to know that sex is going to mean something very different for them than it will for you. And then it's up to you to decide whether you want to lead them on, or draw a line somewhere to be up front and preserve their feelings. It's…

I've been Nick too, and it hurts so bad, and you feel very used. And it's one thing if you're both in the same place emotionally but when one person is so much farther in, it's just mean.