Thank you for the link, that was an interesting read. One thing that struck me about it is the section on confronting, rather than avoiding, triggers as a way to get past trauma. The article refers to "exposure therapy," but doesn't acknowledge that therapy takes place in a specific, therapeutic environment. People…

I do recognize that ratings are specifically for children, but since they indicate what kind of content a movie or game has, they're useful for adults, too. I was just comparing them to TWs in that sense, not trying to compare people who request TWs to children.

I have seen trigger warnings for violence, because yes, people who have experienced any kind of violence do deserve to be warned about content that may trigger them. TWs are pretty much always for violence, sexual or otherwise. I don't understand the whole "real life doesn't have trigger warnings!" line of thinking.…

Debating the usage of "black" vs. "African American" isn't even remotely the equivalent of questioning someone's casual use of vile racial slurs.

I feel the same way. If everything about relationships was so clear cut, people wouldn't be in abusive or toxic relationships at all, yet most people have been in them because, as you say, your brain and your feelings don't always match up. I think this would be an awesome app for people who can't stand up for…

I came here to be that girl! As a person with no family, seasonal scented candles are the only reason I even notice holidays. Bath & Body Works totally sells a cookie-scented candle called Homemade Cookies and there was a Merry Cookie earlier in the season. Also, Vanilla Bean Noel smells like freaking cookies.

Right, white kids get shot to death for being suspected of committing acts of petty theft all the time. Go fuck yourself.

She's not worried about being associated with a sex offender named Bill, because Hillary Clinton is also associated with a sex offender named Bill, and it hasn't hurt her career. Wait, am I missing something?

Jesus Christ, thank you for saying this and for all your hard work in this thread. All the objections I see to Sarkeesian's work come from people not fucking understanding how literary and art criticism works. It's really frustrating, and you've done an amazing job trying to explain this to people.

Here's how I see it. This is a "sexy" picture that she agreed to be in; you can find it not sexy, or you can find it sexy, but it's clearly intended to be sexy and to show that she's not going to apologize (as she states in the article itself) for her sexuality because of some other "sexy" pictures released without…

Some clueless putz comments on EVERY ONE of these articles about catcalling to ask this exceedingly naive question. If you are genuinely too socially inept to recognize whether or not you are being a creep, just keep your mouth shut. At all times.

Yeah, I saw this last week when I was reading somebody's "horrible messages from horrible guys on OKCupid" blog that I think I found the link to on this very website. Never fuck a guy who tries to get in your pants with copypasta.

I slapped my ex once because he grabbed my crotch in public, after we had only been dating for maybe a month, and I didn't know what else to do. I never slapped him again, and I would never slap my very sweet and respectful current boyfriend. It seems like quite a few people in these comments have been in casually…

Why, in reality, would anyone do a study about how often couples push each other on a swing set or grab each other when losing their balance? Like someone is getting their Master's in Playground Sciences and really needs this data? Like anyone gives a shit about how often happy couples throw snowballs at each other?…

I see what you guys are saying about it being a poorly conducted study, and I'm certainly no sociologist myself, but to be honest I think only an absolute nitwit would interpret any of those questions as literally as possible. "How often have you pushed your wife?" "Oh, that one time I put her in a shopping cart, so…

Wow, I really don't think that is normal. Getting physical during an argument is absolutely not okay for either party to do. I think maybe we interpret "abuse" as a one-sided thing, but I believe couples can be mutually abusive towards each other.

Yeah, my ex, who fancied himself a modern-day ninja warrior despite his asthma and incredible laziness, used to say this a lot. Looking back on it, I think it was to intimidate me, but "a combination of sexism and pride" is a pretty accurate way to describe his attitude in general.

It's on a list with "slapped or hit; kicked, bit, or hit with a fist; beat up; choked; burned or scalded." I think it would be pretty obvious what the context is, and I doubt anyone would self-report throwing a pillow at or to someone as an act of violence. They're referring to incidents like the time when I was a kid…

"I didn't know you wanted to come, too"!? That's ... that's incredible! Like, no, I just wanted to act as your sperm receptacle. Amazing. I think guys kind of expect women to have a harder time coming, so if they get you off, either they're a hero or you're a freak. But to just blatantly treat you like an object, ugh.…

One fairly obnoxious sentiment I've heard from guys is this thought that I should be grateful to them for my orgasms. Like, if I came during sex before they did, I owe them something. I'm easy to get off, so I'm not sure what they're patting themselves on the back about. I'm not working from a huge sample size here,…