Seriously, where the fuck do you live? My husband and I both have good (white collar) jobs and we both had to drain all our sick and vacation to cobble together leave and I still had to take 4 weeks unpaid. No one around here offers paid paternity leave and very few offer any paid maternity. I had to stay home the…

I get the point you’re trying to make, and I don’t have children either and am 30 and have been working full-time for the last 12 years. But I don’t think that having children is the same as the personal goals you list. We as a society acknowledge to some degree that having children is a benefit to society as a whole.…

I think about this a lot. I’m a divorce attorney, so I see the havoc children can wreak on relationships, and I worry what it could do to my marriage. I watched the trailer for that new movie about the moms who are “bad moms” because they bring store-bought treats to the school bake sale and think that I don’t want…

I’m 35 with no kids. Last week I visited family including two cousins with four kids kids between them varying in age from 8 to 16.... I didn’t spend more than 4 hours with them total but my takeaway? My uterus will remain forever locked and shuttered. I couldn’t find even a single redeeming quality in being a parent.

I really like this, because I’ve also seen the concept creep going on regarding bullying (no, making fun of a bigot isn’t bullying the bigot), and I also see a lot of power in breaking down when and why internet hate and harassment is distinct from bullying (or ‘cyberbullying’ which is just the same thing but with a…

The worst of it is, he doesn’t seem like a bad dude, just a stupid dude.

I’m still continually impressed that the Rio Olympics are a thing that is still happening. Despite the complete and utter unpreparedness of Rio which includes not just a lack of facilties but a failure to clean up polluted areas the atheletes will be forced to compete in. Added to the high crime rates of Rio and the…

This is why we all need to go back to a full 70s bush. No one can see what’s going on under all that hair.

I sell art - the answer is “Horses!”

“I now declare this regal and magnificent tiger shall henceforth be known as.....Joanne.”

I’m in my early 40's, so I grew up in a very different time. I never even occurred to me at any point in my life that something could be weird about my labia. It never occurred to me that men my be off put by even trimmed down pubic hair.

Hungry Beast did a really good segment on the labiaplasty fad about six years ago.

And if they do care, and express negative thoughts about yours, DTMFA.

Straight up, I have “prominent” labia minora, and I played multiple sports. I’ve never had them chafe or become swollen, except once on a long bike ride. Better fitting underwear is a cheap fix.

That’s not the point. The trend is that more and more teen girls are seeking this surgery out, when it was was intended for post-partum correction. The overall numbers of the procedures is small, but the number of teens getting the surgery is up over 80% (!!) since 2014. That’s crazy.

Parents need to talk to their kids and not take them to a surgeon! The most common thing in the world is that we see things we don’t like about ourselves, compare with other women and then find a way to change it. This is where parents need to step in. When I was 19 I was seriously contemplating lip fillers. Wuuuuut.…

Except in cases of medical necessity, I’m against teens doing anything surgical to their body—so much changes over the course of adolescence and young adult, both physically AND mentally. What is the “end of the world!” as a 16-year-old could be a beloved (or at least neutral) feature as a 26-year-old. There are too…

Mandatory copies of Our Bodies, Our Selves in every school!

What are we becoming?

I’m happy the dude is happy but I have to wonder what the conversations are like. Can a guy at age 90 really relate to the world that a 40 year old is living in? I’m 35 and I’m starting to turn into “You kids today” some times. It’s usually in reguards to social media, I have facebook and twitter but I don’t get snap…