It's interesting to hear from a neighbor. If one neighbor complains but many others support it, can the law be changed and things continue as they were? Where I live (Palo Alto) one person has the power to shut things down while all opinions are considered, then a consensus is reached. It's time consuming but at…

I didn't say it was right or wrong. Against the rules to the point they were shut down, yes. I personally wouldn't want to live anywhere near someone who had 200 people paying to join a party. Which is why (among lots of other reasons) I live somewhere that would never in a million years happen. If enough…

I don't know where the "decency" comes from. Seems like the complaints were about noise, taxes and traffic? Those concerns were enough to get it shut down. I didn't read anything about pearl clutching and decency except in this new bloggers headline scare quotes.

It takes citizens speaking up on both sides to enact change. I hope you can voice your opposing view and get things changed if this was no big deal. Sounds like others viewed it differently. The "sex" angle is going to make it tricky which is lame. Traffic and noise are valid concerns, sex? Who cares.

I lived in that 'hood many years ago and don't know what it's like anymore. Was a crap hole back then, blech. UTA kids and people with no respect for where they lived, young and not invested in the community (I was the same!). I think the bottom line is that the City shut it down because it was against the law. If…

I live in a neighborhood with serious traffic problems so I empathize. Live and let live out in the country. When you choose to live amongst people, you have to share the space and follow the rules. Don't like the rules, cool. Move. Obviously it was against City ordinance or it wouldn't have been shut down. Be…

For lots of reasons. Noise. Traffic. Parking. Taxes. Zoning. If you want to charge for parties, don't live in a suburb like North Arlington. People there have families and jobs and want nice neighborhoods. Sex is why it made the papers, but the volume of traffic and noise is why there were complaints.

It *isn't* confusing to phrase it that way. You simply have limited understanding of the English language. Typos are one thing but a full on criticism of a common word? Admit you were mistaken and heavy handed then move on. I admit I made a typo. Whoops.

It isn't a Jezebel issue, it's the English language. Shutter in this context means "to close". It's a very common, everyday usage. You're critique is wrong and kind of embarrassing.

You're a good neighbor. These people obviously don't care at all about anyone but themselves. It's interesting how many people are defending them.

Not true. It just wouldn't make the papers and blogs.

Do you think that's really the same thing? A once a year special event versus a person running a club out of their house? Your intentionally missing the point, must be.

This Collier person is not so good.

Goddamn. I hope he is away for a long, long time and she is able to move forward and far, far away.

What about the neighbors? That's a lot of cars and traffic and coming and going. Would you really want to live across the street from someone taking "donations" for parties? Maybe on the edge of a college campus but for grown ups with families and responsibilities? Not cool.

I don't get it. What happened? She went to fire the gun and it "struck her"? She shot herself? I think I get your point but the story is murky.

Is it possible her trust fund is protected? Please please please let this guy get none of her money. But at the same time, he grew up in the same house with the same terrible influences. How is he supposed to know better?

The Catch 22 being that if you are surrounded by people who want the best for you and truly care about your well-being, your problems aren't likely to be "drug overdose in a bathtub just like Mom". Bobbi had all the odds stacked against her. So tragic.

After years of traditional 9-10am job starts, my alarm now goes off at 2:45 am and I have to be asleep by 7pm for that to be possible. I never thought I could do it but it's become my lifestyle. Everything in the day shifts upwards. I say no to evening social engagements, I don't eat past 3pm. I had to make huge…

When baristas make $250 an hour psychotherapist money they can empathize with crappy childhoods and crumbling marriages. In the meantime, be an adult and manage yourself in public. The world keeps on turning even when shitty things happen and it is not ok to treat people poorly because you're having a rough time. …