If you count the opposite of being hurtful to be being hurtful in a different way, sure.

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I read something on Jez about vagina popsicles...but these do require advance preparation. But yeah, I think dairy might be okay, yoghurt maybe.

Actually most feminists say that they don’t want to be objectified. For the second time, there’s a world of difference between being valued for your looks alone and being told that you’re unattractive. You will find many other commenters saying that they couldn’t handle this from someone they love.

He’s not saying it’s not as important, he’s saying it’s undesirable. (saying she’s unattractive-identity assault.) There’s a difference. (And saying that it’s her own issue that she’s upset about his lack of desire for her-a perfectly normal reaction to your husband not desiring you-is the kind of thing abusers say in…

I forgot about Melton Mowbray! Their tiny cheese and pickle pies are the omnomnomiest of noms.

I’m not saying that he should find her objectively attractive, I’m asking why she believes that what he says is Fact, as that is often a symptom of abusive behaviour. Just found this description of ‘assault on identity’, a brainwashing technique, that fits her description: ‘The abuser attacks the victim’s…

I think she had already testified. There’s a transcript of it. So as far as I know, she had already been put through that trauma before he decided to peg it-it was after her testimony that the judge started thinking of what his sentence should be.

To be fair, he says that they’re misconduct within his religion. Bearing in mind that religion by its nature makes up whatever rules it wants regardless of things like logic or reason, while this is a dick thing to say, it’s not the worst, especially when followed by recognition that they’re good for society as a…

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I think the same applies to some cheeses.

I’m actually not sure how I feel about Pinkham’s Law, in some cases it’s obviously right, but it’s kind of shutting down debate or room for interpretation...

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Attracted to personality-fine. Saying you’re not attracted to your partner’s body-no matter how ‘honest’ it is, I don’t think you can say something like that in such a blunt fashion and not know that it’s going to hurt. Especially given the way that it usually works is when you love someone, they become attractive to…

Yes but there are some fun things that are usually only recommended in moderation, like wine and pizza. It sounded to me like she had an abundance of those things.

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Honestly and genuinely, I always find bodies that have been through the wars much more intriguing than smooth and perfect ones. There’s many more stories and secrets and they’re just so much more intimate and personal, I guess? I really don’t want to sound patronsing and internet-stranger-’you can do it!’-y, but I…

I’m no expert on what constitutes abuse, but if he’s telling her that he finds her body unattractive and saying that’s why he won’t initiate sex, then no matter how honest his intentions the fact that he’s knowingly hurting his wife makes me think, yes, a little abusive.

I dunno, I took it as she drank a lot of wine, ate a lot of pizza, had a lot of lie-ins, lived a fun life.