I could not expect four women of totally different body types to wear the same dress, that just seemed unfair. The yellow and green couple seems way too intense for me, that is just too much!

Oh honey this has been a thing (at least it was in the Midwest) since the 70s at least! I'm old. It became the tent pole for prom planning, and dance planning, too. Every single thing hinged on The Colerz — which, back then, was often lemon yellow and white, or dove gray and dusty rose. ::gagggy::

Ooooohhh... pretty!!! I really don't see myself in a big pouffy dress ever... but I want a RED one.

I also got married in 2008, and maybe it wasn't as much of Pinterest fueled insanity must-have thing, but it was a thing, because I remember my friend who got married the year before made a huuuuge deal of peacock blue/green. But it never drove me or anyone involved to drink, since I just said "jewel tones" and left…

Good for you. I have been lucky to have two separate brides give me freedom of dress selection and I love them for it. This might be more of a Southern thing? I have had to talk lovely, smart, friends of mine down from the brink because they were concerned that their wedding colors weren't appropriate for a fall…

I wanted to use lemons on the tables instead of flowers because flowers are expensive. I thought bowls of lemons would look nice and be fragrant. The wedding planner cannot comprehend. I finally said ok, fine… lemons and the bridesmaids flowers on the table. WP: But won't the bridesmaids miss their bouquets?

Yes! This! I was diagnosed with severe ADD and was on 60 mg of Adderall in college. I'd focus, but sometimes I'd focus on the most random shit and I'd just obsess over it for hours. So those people who get all this done just blow my mind. I'd get my studies done (usually), but there'd be those days where I'd be like a…

You are assuming a lot aren't you? Maybe she just wasn't in the mood for all the OMG's!

Yes, agreed. I have ADHD too and in college I learned very early that playing solitaire (I'm old) was NOT the thing to do after taking adderall and before studying. I would end up playing solitaire for 4 hours straight and get absolutely nothing done.

Poor kid. He's 10, he should have at least some say in his treatment. I hope he has a doctor or therapist who can help him through what he's dealing with — I don't know whether drugs would be good or bad for him, but it's a scientific judgment that should be made with a doctor's guidance. It's not quite as bad as the…

Wait, you mean the stereotype about folks with our diagnosis is just a stereotype? And people have different experiences and do well in different settings?

Oh I agree completely. This person (I swear it's not the whole talking about myself like I'm not me thing, this was actually someone else..) also had a fairly hefty addiction to coke. Turns out when you know a kid who will sell you his meds, your speed addiction is way less expensive. He said it was a very similar…

I always joke with a friend at work that 9 am is the "safe" time for people to actually talk to me. Until then I just do not want any facetime interaction at all. I've also found that I have to have headphones and something to hear and concentrate on so my brain doesn't wander too much, and I can actually get work…

YES TO ALL OF THIS

We had an almost identical experience, except I wasn't diagnosed until the age of 38. Adderall was a fucking epiphany, and for the first time I could blend in with other "normal" office people.

I'll probably get some eye-rolls here, but I was actually diagnosed with adult ADD (It's a real thing, I promise!) and use adderall to just function like a normal person (i.e., not losing my keys every day, remember to get off at the right subway stop, not losing half my day to daydreaming). When I take it, I feel…

To everybody who legitimately needs Adderall for ADHD (or other related disorders): go get it. Use that medication like it was intended. What's coming next doesn't apply to you, y'all are cool.

I have never known a regular Adderall user who was anywhere near as productive as they believe that they are. Making long lists of things to do? Talking rapidly about doing stuff? Filling out a calendar full of things to do? Yes. Actually getting stuff done? Not really, and rarely competently.

Yes exactly. Add into that what a pain in the ass it is to have to go to the doctors office every goddamn month to get a script to take to the pharmacy because it is too widely abused to be able to have refills or the doctor call it in.

All I can say, as someone with ADD and a Ritalin prescription, is that it feels like all you neurotypical people who take Adderall or Ritalin are talking about some other drug entirely. What is this magical pill you're taking that gives you laser-like focus, energy, and a recreational high? All my stuff does is give…