Sadly, A LOT fewer than those who are super cool with favoring their law enforcement cohorts (using even less formalized-type means). My dad’s a retired police officer and those dudes will hook their homies up with just an insider arch of the eyebrow.

All that entitled righteous indignation does a lot to relieve the tension.

These dudes need to make up their mind: don’t carry yourself with enough confidence, and you’re not wife material; carry yourself with a lot of confidence and you’re not wife material; don’t want to be a wife even if the rules were less complicated, there’s something wrong with you. Whatever, dudes.

If you have nothing better to do with your time and are tired of watching any of the Fast and Furious movies that seem to run ad nauseam, then it’s a good respite

But races can’t own things!!!!

She’s mad because Michelle Obama stole her internship in law school. I thought it was funny, especially as a running gag. And because I went to law school and can absolutely believe that everybody who participates in that exercise is that petty.

Caveat: I didn’t watch in order—I skipped to the end to make sure the ultimate step scene wasn’t garbage, and then hopped around in as I was cooking. My take is that it was better than I thought it’d be, but not as good as it could have been. I’d call it a conversation starter. And it was both parts funny and…

Staff hire who can make respectable enchiladas and bean & cheese tacos.

I’m happy to concede on Coppola since I don’t really consume much of her stuff, and don’t want to. But what I have consumed, I thought was solid enough in terms of technique.

Most of her work doesn’t appeal to me, but I did like Lost in Translation, as problematic as it was on several levels. About 95% of that was Bill Murray though. And agreed that she is very much a product of privilege and access. There are a laundry list of external things she should think about thanking for her…

I think they’re both talented, but they’re also both full of shit. But you’re absolutely correct that they are pretty much about serving white supremacy and the status quo.

I wouldn’t be as annoyed if people like Atwood, Sophia Coppola et al. would just admit their work is about white women instead of clinging so hard to whiteness as neutral/universal. I guess they’re afraid that people would dismiss their work, but that misguided protection of white fragility is not flying these days.

I think being oneself is absolutely good enough. One of the problems is that people often think that means not actively engaging with and taking an interest in others. Humans are kind of self-absorbed, and that is one of the biggest hurdles to connection I’ve seen—they’re so busy being themselves that they’re not…

This isn’t a male/female issue. It’s an online dating issue. I think you’re absolutely right that attractiveness is a huge factor in that process and a barrier for people who diverge from the mainstream just generally (I say as a black woman for whom online dating is by and large not that productive). But that issue…

At that point of frustration, I think it’s good to switch things up. I learned quickly that online dating wasn’t really useful or well-suited for me. I have more quality interactions in-person through meetup and going to events, etc. I know a lot of folks who have done the reverse of that. Maybe I’ll try online dating…

There are a lot of folks who genuinely need a lot of space in an intimate relationship. There is a great deal of value for many people enjoying life with other people who aren’t their romantic partner. Sometimes that “that person” is “those people.” And there are people who are healthy and just fine not partnered by…

the saga did come to an end

Niiiiice.

Also a useful skill is the non-shaming, inquisitive facial expression of “did you I hear correctly that you just said something crazy?”

I’m so here for this. I would have loved to see that live.