Consumers are always part of the equation shaping the market. So if you believe that consumers should have a role in issues of safety, cost, etc., you’ll get what role consumers play in this issue.

I’m not suggesting either of those things. I’m not talking about individuals, I’m talking institutionally and empirically. We’ve long evolved in a male-dominated society and mansplaining is a direct and specific product of that. Women for sure can be condescending (which I said) and can do so from positions of power.…

I think you answered your own question here. The practice of mansplaining is a gendered social norm in a way that it isn’t for women. It’s overconfidence plus socialized power dynamic at work. And as such, addressing it has to also encompass aspects of gender that characterize it. It’s a logical approach, so I’m not…

Asking questions first is a good point, although I’d emphasize that the person could first say what perspective they’re coming from and then engaging the same from the person they’re talking to (rather than insisting that they resume-check up front which can come off as condescending). As in:

It was already gendered and naming it is trying to correct for that existing divide AND get people to stop being assholes.

Your original comment is odd because empirically speaking, male condescension has historically been normalized and lauded while female condescension is punished or shamed. And this is not a controversial characterization—it’s pretty much in the state of the art. So yeah, any gender can have morons, but there is…

The coolest place I saw an aurora was on an airplane on my way to Reykjavik. It made the trip kind of feel like space travel. But after a lot of missed chances, I finally saw it in earnest a few years ago in northern Iceland. My friend and I were at dinner, and the waiter gave us the heads up from recognizing when it…

My older brother and sister were occasionally whupped, but I wasn’t, mostly because my parents had mellowed out on a lot of general parenting stuff. And now given how we’ve studied and talked about it, my thought is that at best corporal punishment is ineffective as a deterrent for bad behavior as compared to the…

That kind of white anxiety is plain old complicity with supremacy. And if people are really interested in racial equality, they will at the very least acknowledge that and hopefully actively fight it. People are going to feel what they feel, but at least name it for what it is.

I didn’t say it was, the opposite actually. Setting the precedent will help build the case for people at lower-tiered schools.

Yep that’s why you exercise good. discretion as I said.

Pet peeve for sure. I don’t know why folks move someplace and then make zero effort to engage with the community itself to vet things happening around them.

It’s a factor for sure and it means excercising discretion. Some encounters are going to be welcoming and some aren’t. I hope some aren’t because experiencing a highly inclusive environment isn’t always going to be the point. A lot of the exercise is about getting people used to not being catered to and linking that…

Gentrification!

All on point. Especially #1 because no one else is in a position to do that effectively. Everybody’s gotta step up on this.

It’s sadly like talking to toddlers sometimes. My friends/co-workers immediately got it, so I was lucky there. But for real, those conversations are painful, and I’ve long stopped being polite about it.

Right, everybody says questionable things unintentionally. And like I said to my friends and co-workers at the time, at the end of the day, it doesn’t actually matter. Intentional or not, it’s still inappropriate behavior that needs to change. Consequences are consequences when people perpetuate institutional racism.

This is a nice precedent, especially for the folks coming out of lower tiered schools. I’ve known a few folks who’ve had to sweat out the bar admission process for past minor offenses or drug offenses, but this is pretty huge.

Being as generous as I’m willing to be, I can see her not understanding the implications of how she said that. I remember when Trump gushed over April Ryan for asking a good, smart question at a press conference earlier in the year, I had to explain to some of my white friends and co-workers why I thought that was…

I had successfully blocked that dude and his assholery from my mind.