The idea that people only like to take on a submissive role because they’re being abused or they’ve suffered abuse in the past is a really tired trope and patently untrue.

As someone who’s worn a collar, though not in public...keep your concern to yourself. She’s clearly happy and consenting.

I feel like one of the only people who isn't into that dress. My first thought was "ick."

I think the flower crown on the donkey is totally adorable, if somewhat ridiculous. BUT — for God’s sakes, don’t put ranunculus on a donkey! The donkey is virtually certain to end up eating the flowers, and ranunculus are FUCKING POISONOUS. Killing a donkey is not a great way to start a marriage. It just points out…

The floral bustier dress looks like it was made from a circa 1970’s tablecloth.

In hindsight, I should have realized what I was in for long before it happened. My rugby girls, many of whom were quite vocal about never getting married, were suspiciously insistent on the bouquet toss, threatening the beating of my life if I chose to skip it. The stampede away from the bar when it was announced was…

I am having cake and an ice cream and waffle truck #fuckyeahdesert

Yeah, since we costume, we’ve worn the Time Lord robes quite a bit. My favorite pictures of us in them are not even from the wedding, but 8 months later at a different convention:

We did the handfasting and everything. And both me and my husband were in the robes. The robes are velvet, with gold braiding, and the headdresses were layers of canvas and wire and stiffener with more gold braiding and laser etched medallions. I had a matching dress underneath in red and gold duponi silk, and he had…

Late to the party as ever, but I love a PTQ where I can copy my own previous work (when describing an inadvertently sports-themed facet of our wedding). I say, fuck the bouquet toss in favour of an out and out brawl. Literal blood on the dance floor (but not the metaphorically named band, they’re awful) or GTFO.

I don’t think that people understand that there are people who are happily single.

I say do what you want, people have fun with it.

I got married last November. I was 47 at the time, and it was my first marriage. After about the age of 25, I dreaded being forced to participate in the bouquet toss when I attended weddings. I would sometimes slip away to the bar, or to the bathroom to avoid it. I hated when those involved (often times, including the…

When I was single, I would hide in the bathroom when there was a bouquet toss.

That’s really lovely. And on top of that, nobody can bitch at you for not doing the toss, because sick mother trumps their petty complaint.

Our good friends, who were in the wedding, had just celebrated their one year anniversary 5 days prior to my wedding, so I brought my florist a photo of her wedding bouquet and had them make a smaller version, which I presented to her. I kept mine.

I tossed a Yoshi. People were willing to DIE to get that thing. 10/10, would toss Yoshi again.

I didn’t throw my bouquet because the only single woman at my tiny wedding was my younger sister and, really, how shitty would that have been?

Instead of tossing the bouquet, I handed it to my good friend who was getting married a few months after me, and had everyone toast her and her fiancé. She took the ribbon and little jewel pins from my bouquet and had them incorporated into her bouquet, then did the same thing I did, handed her bouquet off to her…