I’ve mentioned this before on here but in France, after you have a child you are offered “perineal reeducation” courses — basically you get a personal trainer for kegals. Re-strengthening your pelvic floor after birth should be a priority for the health of the mother, and of course there is the added sexual benefit —…

Yeah, I mean, the spectrum between “sewing up a woman post-childbirth for her husband’s enjoyment” and “sewing a woman’s labia together so you know she’s pure” isn’t as wide as I want it to be.

I come at this conversation from a slightly different angle. I am DYING to get a breast reduction. In fact, I just reached out to a doctor today for a consultation about one. I wear a 34G, and I absolutely hate the way my breasts impact everything in my life, from what I wear to how I exercise. I regularly have pain…

I don’t feel that bad about criticising the individual for not having the awareness to see why this self-inflicted torture/inconvenience/expense is patriarchy-imposed bullshit.

Wearing dresses = patriarchal expectation.

That seems like straight medical malpractice to me. Giving someone unnecessary stitches they haven’t consented to get?

Plus like, actual tightness comes from strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. Extra stitches are superficial bullshit. If a person wants them (and is fully capable of deciding that) then that’s one thing, but someone deciding to sew up part of your vagina for the *idea* of tightness without consulting you at all???…

I disagree vehemently with what you’re saying here:

Yeah, I’d be in full on lawyer mode as soon as she said that.

Yeah that is some straight up male-centered bullshit.

If you think you’re going to change beauty standards more quickly by being personally critical and judgemental, history begs to differ. Beauty standards change on a macro level due to all sorts of factors, technological advances being one of the major reasons. Wars, political leadership, the entertainment industry and…

Exactly. Like, this society is broken but I still gotta live in it.

I think it’s a mistake to judge and criticize the people who are pressured into misogynistic beauty standards rather than the system which pressures them. On a macro level, sure, criticize those beauty standards. But on an individual level? Let people do them sans judgment.

I do think this is something where measured judgment is appropriate. And I think it’s important to consider the extent to which women alter themselves and the pressures that puts on other women. Shaving your legs is a lot different than lip injections. But if everyone starts to do lip injections, it will become a…

Wow to the “Lover’s Stitches”. Fuck that. Being super tight may feel fun for him, but it makes it much more painful for you. Crazy me, I usually find sex more pleasurable when I’m aroused and loose enough to accommodate him, rather than trying to shove a watermelon through a pinhole (as Snooki once eloquently…

“Of course we can’t judge. If you choose to do it (unlike your lover’s stitch!), and it makes you happy, go for it.”

A detail that isn’t emphasized: readily reversible (e.g. shaving, makeup) vs. irreversible or difficult to reverse (e.g. implants, tattoos, various -ectomies).

Why do I get the feeling that this is largely based on Trump hitting on Mika repeatedly years ago and being turned down?

“We knew he was toxic towards women, but now he’s toxic towards OUR women!”