To me this kinda underscores the whole problem with gay cis people using transphobic slurs.

The closest I have come to this is dating a guy who got mad and wanted to send his food back because his enchiladas had enchilada sauce on them. "But I don't like this kind of sauce," he said. "You can't send food back because it is made correctly," I told him.

Or, she wasn't there as a potential mate for him but as a guest discussing careers. Maybe he shouldn't be so fucking entitled.