Okay, but think about the minimum expected effort from men compared to the minimum expected effort from women. I have to shower, shave, do my hair, put on makeup, and have matching clothes and accessories to meet the minimum “you don’t look like a troll” standard for women. Men have to...roll out of bed and find a…

If that’s all you say, then you’re not likely to get many responses (at least from my anecdotal evidence).

I don’t see how “cast a wide net” and “write a semi-personalized message” are mutually exclusive. Writing in some personalization takes what, 2 minutes instead of 30 seconds for “hey”? You could still message 50 people in a day and not break a sweat.

That’s how I feel too. Long messages can get sort of weird and overly personal, but 1 paragraph is usually good. My go-to is “I see you liked X movie/book. I haven’t seen it yet—what did you like about it? Have you seen [thing I like]?”

Interesting. I wonder if it’s a population thing. The dating pool where I am is pretty small, so you can’t burn through your matches like that.

But could that be a perception problem? I mean...I get that the response rate on online dating sucks. It sucks for everybody. I probably get 1 response for every 5ish messages I send.

*pat pat*

I like how the only choices are “hey” or “INAPPROPRIATE INTIMACY AHOY.” Dudes need some moderation.

I wonder if there’s a bit of a sexual orientation divide here too. Like queer people try a bit harder or something. There’s not a very large queer dude population on OKC to compare with the straight dudes.

Then maybe...don’t message those ladies? I don’t message dudes who don’t have a bio. This may also be contributing to the gender differences in this study.

How can you not ignore them. I mean, how does one respond to “hey”?

Also, imo dudes put waaaay less effort into first messages. I have NEVER sent a “hey” message or gotten one from a woman, but I’ve gotten tons from dudes.

I don’t think that necessarily prevents much. Even if we assume that all the concealed carriers are stable, conscientious, good people, that doesn’t mean that their gun couldn’t be stolen or discharged by someone else in class. More guns also means more accidents, which is the #1 problem with guns. Even the most…

My understanding is that parts of the cervix are transplanted as well, and the whole array is really only connected at the vagina. So contractions and the expansion of the uterus aren’t really putting stress at the point of connection.

That makes no sense. You don’t induce empathy by making boys see girls as the competition (even equal competition). You induce empathy by raising boys to see girls as equally human and complex...which isn’t going to be solved by a science contest. Also, sexism is not just a problem with boys. Women also internalize…

Whoever thought up 12-year-old Lex Luthor (because seriously, he looks 12 when Affleck and Cavill are clearly grown men) needs to be fired. What horrible casting.

I will give all my money to the first person to make a Batman/Superman buddy cop comedy. Of course, that amounts to $5 and a Canadian penny, but still.

But the problem is that girls CAN’T win when boys are involved! Not because their ideas aren’t just as good, but because gender bias puts them behind. We know that scientific papers with a woman’s name at the top are more likely to be reviewed negatively than the same paper with a gender-neutral or male name. We know…

Holy shit.

The difference here is that English is clearly foreign, while Bengali was definitely native. Also, English is still an official language.