It happened right in the atrium of the mall, so it’s a crime scene, and people really can’t enter the main mall without disturbing it.
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Yeah, and unfortunately I think a lot of people have the “But what about second chances?!” mentality. I’m all for second chances, but only after an abuser has gone through either significant therapy and counseling or the legal system and proves that he knows his actions were abhorrent.
This is horrifying. Is the argument actually, “Well, he only choked her and slammed her against a wall once, so obviously he’s a caring father”? Really, he admitted to that and the court let him have the kid? What the hell?
Not really. Generally, the US legal system leaves loopholes for such circumstances as “I fled with my child because our abuser kicked us out.” Also, he apparently only established parental rights after the fact.
Has she tried contacting any groups that specifically work with Mexican immigrants? Sometimes DV/women’s rights groups are less helpful because they don’t work with immigrants or Spanish-speakers on a regular basis. I’m not in NY, but here in the Midwest immigrant organizations definitely seem to be more helpful than…
I *think* (disclaimer: not a legal expert) that what happened is she met the qualifications to return in 2014, was promised a visa, and then her name tripped an alarm in a separate database. At which point the Yolo County authorities were alerted, and they arrested her upon arrival.
There’s probably a lot of things going on here.
I think it works because the only real response people have is “Because I want to know” and since that’s not socially acceptable it short-circuts their brains.
I like “Why do you ask?” + pitying smile, myself.
Well, let’s turn that around. Would you be happy if people felt entitled to every single detail of your life? Privacy exists for a reason—sometimes we keep things to ourselves because they’re embarrassing, or because we haven’t worked out our own feelings yet, or because we don’t want seven different opinions on a…
All the stars to that chef. Hot damn.
That’s true, I just meant that it was probably a complicating factor that made it more difficult for her to access prenatal healthcare and assistance, travel a long way for a legal abortion, etc.
That’s true, but maybe if she had had access to mental health care and help before this, she would have been able to get a legal abortion instead of being forced to resort to ordering pills online.
It looks like there’s already a couple organizations who are going to pay for her defense, but if you want to help monetarily there are several organizations like The Lilith Fund (https://www.lilithfund.org) that help women who couldn’t otherwise afford abortions.
I don’t know why people find it so hard to believe that you can have differing experiences and still share the same identity. Of course trans women do not have the exact same experience of womanhood that cis women do. Women of color don’t have the same experiences that white women do, and queer women don’t have the…
Oh, let’s be real. Dude isn’t paying child support. There’s no way.
That’s very true. Hopefully the manager really drove home how poor her choices were after he helped her. I still don’t think he should have turned her over to the cops, since a DWI with pot carries far heavier consequences than alcohol.
Googling isn’t doing me any good on finding the study right now, but I think io9 did an article on it awhile back, so maybe a search here will turn it up?
I don’t think that the better learning experience of getting arrested outweighs the serious lifelong consequences of a drug conviction in Texas.