Thank you so much for writing this.

This.

I decided to put this in it’s own thread rather than add it as a response.

This was absolutely a planned event by that rapist and I can pretty much guarantee that he’s done it before and will continue to do it in the future. “Dear Abby” should have shut her fucking gob about “miscommunication” bullshit and told her to go to the closest rape crisis center for help.

This is why you teach your kids about consent as soon as you can. Always reinforce that “No” needs to be respected.

Right. I have an acquaitance who once said that if you go to a guy’s house who is clearly interested in you, you should expect to have sex with him, and I was like, hold the fucking phone. I’m 34 years old and have had sex with a lot of people, and I still expect things to generally progress from kissing, to hands and…

This wasn’t a breakdown of communication. It was a trap laid by an experienced predator complete with his “but I said we might make out!” escape hatch.

And WTF with Abbs and the “well he CLEARLY wanted to have sex with you, duh you dumb bitch” cause you know, studying = drive to isolated area and rape. Natch.

That’s actually pretty terrifying, and to think this woman has only reached out to friends and fucking Dear Abby makes it even sadder.

“He had made no secret that he wanted sex with you”

I could not wrap my head around this - when someone tells you that whatever you are doing is physically hurting them, you stop doing what you are doing. This is a basic thing that we all learn as little kids. There was no break down of communication, he just ignored her.

She told her to tell a counselor at school but didn’t tell her that school counselors are mandatory reporters.

What part of. “Stop, it hurts,” constitutes a breakdown in communication? And this whole, both parties made mistakes bullshit is sickening. This rapist doesn’t need a stern talk from his parents outside of, “when a girl\woman says no and, stop, you’re hurting me, take your fucking hands off of her and take some time…

My thought exactly. There is no issue with how the girl responded, and it’s clear she was raped, but it also seems like the boy didn’t understand (hopefully) that when she was making small protests, it was his responsibility to take that as a solid ‘no’.

Um, he invited her over to study and then drove her to an isolated area? Yeah, that’s not predatory at all! Just a communication problem. smgdh

I told two of my close friends about what happened. One said he had essentially raped me. The other said it doesn’t count as rape because even though I said it hurt, I didn’t say it forcefully enough.

Guy with a Masters in Special Education and 17 years working with children with severe autism here: 1. Fuck you DeNiro, you degenerate piece of garbage. 2. The causes of autism are widely accepted as a mess of disparate factors.....the age of the father, a heightened level of testosterone in the mother, genetics ( a…

I truly feel for parents desperate to find something to blame for their child’s disorder, but once you cross the line into spreading dangerous untruths because you want the conspiracy to be true so badly, you must be told to sit down and shut up. Looks like Mr. De Niro has crossed that line.

Who is more of a victim than this poor man? Society has truly let him down. Shame!

A rich white heterosexual cis man is maybe not going to get what he wants! MISANDRY! OPPRESSION!!!!!!